My gf and i always fight about her going out with her friends..and in the end she always wins and i rot at home, all night, wonderin if she's okay. and during the fight, i never even said anything like she cant go. I can't understand her.
I know how girls would answer to this question(like, "you should trust ur gf and she doesnt deserve a man like u who's so selfish")
I know im not being selfish here coz i've never ever told her the line "you can't go".
If this is true, i need an advice on how i can possibly cope with the situation..
2006-12-22 21:23:21 · 10 answers · asked by Kolby S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not being selfish if that happens regularly, so don't listen to that nonsense. I think you'd probably be better off with another girl. Good luck!
2006-12-22 21:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw this show on tv...where the woman was involved with a great guy, but he didnt 'fit' in with her friends (they came before the boyfriend and stood by her, better than some family memebers do, uno? etc etc) anyway, he didnt try to like what she and her friends enjoyed so he stayed behind and made her and her friends feel awkward around him. Though, all felt he was a nice enough guy...they just werent a life long match.
Uninfluenced by her friends, but by her own desired lifestyle for her future....she broke it off. Not saying this is your particular scenario, but if you cant see things from all points of view...
trust is not necessarily the issue, but are you both compatible really? Just food for thought.
2006-12-22 21:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a balance. get some fun friends of your own. Don't loose your friends- they are a strong support for you through alot... and this girl is new, obviously. so, maybe put a few days a week to hang out/talk with her and a few days for your friends...and then, after a little while, start introducing her to your GROUP of friends, and vis versa.... :) you two are individuals who are dating, and like eachother for who you are with and without the other person in the relationship. learn to cope without her by your side, and value the time when she is there, but also- don't let yourself be walked all over. Be realistic in your needs in the relationship.
2006-12-22 21:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by truelovewaits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you fight about her going out with her friends? Do you think she would fight you about you going out with your friends or is that going on too? Fighting doesn't solve anything but instead makes matters worse. Let her go out with her friends and enjoy herself if that is what she wants and when she does you go out with your friends. Why rot at home when you don't have to do that? You should show you trust her and she should show she trusts you. Stop the quarelling and fighting and act like mature people who have a good relationship. Communicate with each other in a pleasant way and have fun together and with your friends. Sometimes it is good to go out with your friends instead of always going out with your girl or boyfriend.
2006-12-22 21:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know girls at all you would know they need their space and their friends are very important to them, because if you break up they will always have their friends. You need to set up some rules. Let her go out with her friends on certain nights and with you on other nights. Remember you don't own her she is not your wife and if she were you still don't own her. Make her happy and give her some space. You will see she will be fair about it and this will improve you relationship. If you don't she will dump you and what will you do then?
2006-12-22 21:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this Dude. If your girlfriend is going out and staying out all night she is seeing another man. She is messing around behind your back. If a woman really cares about her man he will come before everybody else. Including her girl friends. I think you need to kick her to the curb and find another that wants to be with you and respects you.
2006-12-22 21:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since i dont see my bf much but i see my mates all day i choose him over them and if he wanted to see me when i was with mates id bring him along to join us
have you ever thought about asking to go with her or going out with your mates or plan sumthing special for the night she usually goes out with mer mates so the she will wanna stay at home with you
2006-12-22 21:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that's pretty unfair to your side...
for me when you get into a relationship you must prioritize first your boyfriend / girlfriend... and i'm sure that your friends understand you anyway...
why don't you talk to your gf about what you feel
hope this help =)
good luck...
GOD bless...
2006-12-22 21:30:34 · answer #8 · answered by myl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends are no 2 if you expect your relationship to go anywhere. You take care of your friends and don't ignore them or their feelings but if you intend on making your relationship work you nurture that relationship before any other.
2006-12-22 21:27:15 · answer #9 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your not bieng selfish at all.
tell her you would like to spend time with her and if she insists on going out with her mates than you go out wth your mates.
merry christmas !!!
2006-12-22 21:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋