Well, not exactly "right" but I guess I just wanted an opinin on this... So I'm only a freshman in high school, almost 15, but my parents (mostly just my mom) talk to me a lot about thinking about college and taking the right classes now to go to a good school and is putting some pressure on me to go to a really good school. I do want to go to Columbia actually but it's reeeally expensive, like $32,000 per year. And my parents never started saving for college!!! Isn't it a parents job to prepare their children for life as an adult, when they're no longer living with their parents? Whenever I bring that up, the subject of starting a college fund, they get all mad and tell me to stop telling them how to be parents. I don't get it!!! They tell me to thing about college, and when I do and I try to get them to start a fund (though it's too late now to really save any money) they get mad! What do you think? What should I do??
2006-12-22 20:44:22 · 12 answers · asked by doodle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I forgot to say that my family is middle class, definitly not poor but definitly not rich either. There are 4 kids in my family including myself, and I can't get a job because I'm too young... but once I'm old enough I'm sure I will.
2006-12-22 21:15:41 · update #1
u r, its ur life. lls
2006-12-22 21:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by charles d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally agree with you. If they are going to pressure you with going to college then they should be willing to help you pay for it. My parents didn't tell me they weren't going to help me until I graduated and i ended up joining the Air Force so I could pay for it. If your parents don't plan on helping tell them to back off. But do look into joining the military you even get college credits for the training that is mandatory in the military including basic training! Also they probably aren't actually upset with you for bringing up the fund as they are with themselves for not doing it or not being able to afford to do it or just plain never thinking about it.
2016-05-23 01:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through college and paid my own way. Know I have kids and yes they have college funds. But keep this in mind it is your life and what do you want to do with it? Work hard get good grades and it will all work out. Remember there a million scholarships out there that are never used just be proactive and be willing to work your @## off. I did worked two jobs during college and know a have a really good life.
2006-12-22 23:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by tc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your parents feel guilty about not saving money but are they rich did they have a hard time just keeping afloat when they were young . me and my wife of 42 yrs never had any extra money while the kids were growing up we got them through high school and they were on there own if they wanted collage they would have to work for it and get student loans we never had enough for retirement so we live on social security your parents don't owe you a life it's time you got a job and put money away for your self
2006-12-22 20:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by dalecollins64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I did. I went to college anyway. I'm going to be in a lot of student loan debt, but that doesn't mean I won't get a better job that will accommodate the payments, because I did get a good degree. The loans will be paid off eventually.
2006-12-22 20:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jay S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better late than never. Advise your parents to start saving for college. Use free money also. Like Upromise or credit card rewards going to college savings accounts (529 Plans). For the list of credit cards, use the link below.
http://www.plans529.com/Directory/tabid/145/rrcid/41/rrepp/5/Default.aspx
2006-12-26 13:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by HindiSong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what is wrong with YOU starting a college fund? Get a job, start saving money. Maybe they didn't save money for your education because they were too busy paying to raise you.
2006-12-22 20:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saving...
You know, go for educational plans. They make your college tuition lower y around 40 percent. Columbia is a great school...Ive League. Go for it. If you need our parent's support, you have to tell them honestly, that you don't see their effort in raising money to support your college fund. Tell them they have to understand to give you a better life. If not, there's a big problem...
2006-12-22 20:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by hegelian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strive for a scholarship to help pay and when you do start working save money for college but odds are they have some sort of fund started for you and your siblings. its not about who is right or wrong, its about you meddling in your parents financial business... try approaching the subject a different way..
2006-12-22 23:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a grant some you do not have to pay back. when that time for you comes. if your a good student maybe you will get a scholarship? tell them you know they mean well but since you will be paying you will decide what you will take and if you will go. no its not their responsibility. however, if they persist it should be or they should stop pressuring you. every parent wants their child to succeed. maybe? they did not. ask the grandparents.
2006-12-22 20:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's your parents' job to pay for what happens in your ADULT life. If they do...consider yourself lucky.
If going to a REALLY expensive college is that important to you...be prepared to take out student loans yourself.
2006-12-22 22:27:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋