they have been arguing now for three yrs and things are bad
2006-12-22 20:31:42 · 22 answers · asked by henrik 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
kill one of them .obviously not your favourite one
2006-12-22 20:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by dean 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell them in a very calm manner "take it out side" open the door ask them to leave, close the door behind them.
It works because you have not joined in, just changed the location. Start being objective about their behaviour like it is the family down the road, don't get emotional.
Be consistent and firm you are the parent always be the parent it is your home never be their friend it doesn't work, never take sides it isn't your problem to solve it's theirs....always be the parent even when your 80.
2006-12-23 07:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by shepherdivynzac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. I haven't talked to my older brother for years and years now. We used to drink in the same pub when we were in our 20's and the landlord got sick and tired of us arguing and sometimes even fighting. He said I don't want to bar either of you so from now on if one is in the other has to drink elsewhere for the night! We have hated each other since I was very young. I stopped talking to him when I was 7. We lived in the same house until I was 16 and I didn't speak a word to him. Don't interfere, you won't be thanked for it.
2006-12-23 04:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by jeeps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear adult son,
Now that your an adult you can be an adult and if you wish not to follow the rules of this household you can now be out from under our authority pack your bags and leave. This dosen't mean we don't love you any less however if you want your freedom and you don't want to submit to the rules of this household that pays your light, food, school and every other bill then you get the responisibilities and rights of adulthood which means being out on your own. We would be happy to have you stay however that means submitting to the rules of this household one of which is don't antagonize your sister.
Thanks, Parents
2006-12-23 04:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are adults and should work it out themselves. Really. There's not much you can do about it. Tell them how you feel about the arguing, but if they can't find it within themselves to make a truce and try and get along, afraid there's not much hope.
2006-12-23 04:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a normal process of life. Try to start from understanding what they are arguing about.
2006-12-23 07:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by Yo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no real way to stop sibling rivalry, I have a sister, and the way we both stopped arguing was to get as far away from each other as possible. She's in chicago and i'm in washington.
Get them as far apart as possible.
2006-12-23 04:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by Estevan R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when me and my sister where growing up and we started arguing my dad used to tell us to go in the back yard and sort it out there neither of us went it stopped us arguing maybe you should put them in a room together and tell them to stay in there and get everything off there chest you wont play piggy in the middle with them anymore
2006-12-23 05:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can just ask both of them to adjust in there own way . it is very hard but u should have a good emotional & moral talk with them or even ask ur father or religious precher to explain to both of them it not bad to argue but the relationship & love between them should not be hurt.
2006-12-23 04:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by dilu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are brother and sister. They are gonna argue but the important thing is that they show each other occassionally that they love one another.
2006-12-23 04:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by ashleighshea1982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can sit back, stay impartial. Don't get involved with people picking on and talking about the other behind their backs, keep your contact with both and let them sort it out. Get too involved and you will join in the mayhem too. You maybe don't know the full FULL story.
2006-12-23 09:00:50 · answer #11 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋