2006-12-22 20:13:47 · 10 answers · asked by amie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Connecting emotionally HAS to come before being a great lover. Even an 11 year old can have sex, but to make love, one must understand the other person. Usually this takes time, not a one night stand if thats what your looking for.
2006-12-22 20:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A great lover? That's a physical trait from experience--but it will soon be apparent that lovers are emotionally involved by showing respect, courtesy, being a great listener, be supportive, helpful, calm, and appreciate of your partner for the PERSON that they are. And mean it all!!!! Don't be a phony or a player--that isn't a lover--it's a loser.The connection should be natural--not forced or coerced. If it isn't happening--be real and gracefully move on. Good luck
2006-12-23 04:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only be a great lover only if you click with the person your with, but be there for her through thick and thin, buy flowers (girls like these) they need reassuring sometimes that you still care coz lets face it mate us guys do forget the importance of a relationship from time to time, help around the house don't take it for granted that she will do it, surprise her by taking her out for dinner, but most of all don't feel embarrassed to show your true feelings towards her, (even in front of your mates) don't think bed time is shag time, girls like to cuddle up aswell without the presence of sex !.. just lay there play with her hair, etc and talk, emotionally connection takes time !
2006-12-23 04:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by PLUMBER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time, emotional investment, and knowing the other person. It takes time because sex is suppose to get better because you know and understand the person. With time, you know what they like, know what they wouldn't like, what works anad what doesn't work because every couple is different. You have to be compatible in bed. You may be a great lover for one woman, and be the worst for another.
2006-12-23 04:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by missprissy1004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her your emotions and stand up to her. if she argues with you or does something you don't like. say nothng. this makes her think you, you don't care and she'll want to know why. by all means, be nice to her, when you feel like it, but don't be a doormat.
just becuase you like or love someone, doesn't mean you have to cater to their needs 24/7. if she shows signs of being upset, take her out, tell her, don't ask her. if you ask her. she'll think you're seeking approval to be with her, which isn't the sign or a lover. give her space as well, if she is surprised by what your doing, she'll come round. a women loves a man, who knows what he's doing.
2006-12-23 05:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by rjhamuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A meeting of the minds, then the bodies and the two kind of meld
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2006-12-26 21:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm . . . lots of touching, not just in erotic areas. Listening and being understanding, Accepting the other person and making them feel very appreciated. Taking care of them when they're in need. That should get you started. Good luck!
2006-12-23 04:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow and tender. Until it is time to not be tender. We will let you know when that is. Foreplay, young man is essential. Find the clitoris and don't lose it.
2006-12-23 04:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to achieve this you need love and understanding for each other
2006-12-23 04:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by henrik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
understand your partner's needs n' feelings.......the main thing is, u both need to communicate to make things work.....
2006-12-23 04:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by Marijuana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋