I want to know if i should give up my dream of having a wedding? Reasons (1) being i'm alredy married,(we got married through a jp) (2) my mother hates my husband, (3) my father probably won't walk me down the path (4) my husbands family doesnt like my family (5) its either my family or my husbands family its not both. So what do you think Hopelessy waiting for things to change.
2006-12-22 18:52:00 · 6 answers · asked by Kelsie R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that in your heart of hearts you want to have the wedding of your dreams. Although it seems that you have alot of chips stacked against you, have the wedding you desire. If you and your husband plan to make it work no matter what then just go for it. As far as your parents you both need to sit down and talk with each of them and explain that you 2 are gonna be together and that life is hard enough without them turning against you and you would really appreciate their love and support. If they are not willing to meet you half way, just do what makes y'all happy in the long run. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-24 00:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dana S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on your dream, but do remember that it isn't going to be "perfect". Just plan whatever you want and don't expect anything from all of your families. If they decide they would like to help you then they will step in. Search for alternatives to what they don't do... like walking down the isle... you can walk alone or with another family member or a friend. Also what does your husband say??? Does want this? You are going to need ALL of his support! Good luck!
2006-12-23 10:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is YOUR life. Both of your families have lives of their own to live. If you're dead-set on marrying this man - then follow thru with your dreams, girl.
For God's sakes - only YOU know how your heart feels - where you want to go and who you want to be with.
As complicated as it is - this isn't a unique situation.
Families are too often creating pointless heartache for reasons that if you broke it down - haven't got anything to with you!
Don't allow others rigid behavior to be a road-block for you.
Things have a way of working out - even if it means letting go of the doors - that don't want to stay open.
2006-12-23 03:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by Cheyenne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hon, you DID have a wedding. Those vows with the JP. That was your wedding. You get one wedding per marriage. (Married people do not have weddings.)
If you have a dream of something festive and celebratory-- rather than repeating the ceremony (which would be in poor taste as well as bad etiquette), it would be much more appropriate to have an anniversary party or banquet or dinner-dance, and have a tiered cake and have it as festive and formal (or not) as you want it to be.
Just, not a re-run ceremony. It's not a good idea.
Look into:
Book: Miss Manners on Weddings
AND, one of her several articles on this subject:
http://www.unitedfeatures.com/ufsapp/viewFeatureSample.do?featureId=21&sampleId=1
And another simillar one:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/ac2/wp-dyn?pagename=article&contentId=A45233-2004Jan24¬Found=true
2006-12-23 03:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dear Kelsie,
Never give up on your dream. Things in life are always changing. Who knows maybe one day your dad might change the way he feels about your situation. And maybe eventually both families will realize that you two really love each other. If that never happends then you can still have your dream wedding. Im sure that you have friends that would love to see you in a white dress. Please never give up on your dream.
2006-12-23 03:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Houtxchico 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
RENEW YOUR VOWS AND **** YOUR PARENTS
INVITE THEM IF YOU MUST BUT ANY PROBLEMS MAKE THEM LEAVE
2006-12-23 03:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea_angel_darling 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋