I was born with a cleft lip and palate, 26 years old 6ft 2 in, in great shape and have never had a girlfriend before , I've been told by women that I'm hot and adorable but have never had a girlfriend because of my low self confidence about my self image. Girls would you date a guy who was born with a cleft lip and palate? I really want a girlfriend badly.
2006-12-22 18:39:34 · 11 answers · asked by 1776USA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've had seven surgeries. I was born with the less severe cleft lip called a lateral.
2006-12-22 18:46:06 · update #1
I live in Chicago, and have had braces twice!
2006-12-22 18:47:48 · update #2
I was physically and mentally abused in grammar school and high school, and was a cutter in my teenage years.
2006-12-22 18:52:17 · update #3
Have you ever seen Joaquin Phoenix? WOW! That's one hot guy! He also has the scar from a cleft lip & palate yet he is one of the best actors of our time. He obviously had the confidence to overcome this and pursue his dream and has become very successful.
You have answered your own question really. You know you look good and you've been told you look good but you have low self-confidence. I can PROMISE you that it's not the scar that is turning the women off. It's the low self-confidence.
Truth is, we all have scars of some kind. Not all of them show. Some are inside. All have the potential to bind us if we allow them. This may sound cold but you need to just get over it. You obviously have a lot of good qualities. Why would you let what you perceive (but many don't) as a bad quality negate all of the positive things you have to offer a woman? Do you think the scar is more important than your personality? Do you think it's more important than your heart? If you find a woman who sees it as a turn-off I can promise you she is not worth your time.
God bless you!
2006-12-22 18:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You bet......You sound like a great guy and it is so sad to have low self esteem. Stop doing that to yourself. You go out and ask some girls out and if they don't go, don't worry, ask another and so on until you find someone who is worthy of you. You know it is not what you see on the outside, it is what is on the inside. Personally, I care more about how a person is than how he looks and most women would love to have someone care and I think you would do that. Hang in there and look at yourself everyday in the mirror and tell yourself that you are a great person because you are. I would not worry about the cleft lip and palate, but if it bothers you that much, why don't you talk to a Dr. about surgery. I don't think you would need it except you need to have confidence in yourself..Good luck with the girls. I really wish you the very best. Have a very Merry Christmas......
2006-12-22 18:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you not have this surgically fixed? It happens to quite a few people and they can do something for that. But yes I would date a guy with that if I liked him and felt attraction, as I would with any other guy.
You should check out if you can have that improved on. There is no reason why you should have to put up with that if something can be done.
Joaquin Phoenix was born with a cleft lip and palate and you will notice the scar where he had it surgically fixed.
2006-12-22 18:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking if I would date someone with a cleft lip or palate- certainly I would, if I liked the guy and was interested in him. Many people see past those types of problems. My husband is in a wheelchair, and I would date him again and again.
Try working on your self confidence. there are many resources out there- wether it be support groups, self help books, psychology, something... dont let low self image keep you from having the life you want.
2006-12-22 18:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,get a grip---just be yourself and be nice--women love that.A real nice woman will see past all the so called flaws. What about women with flaws--true love will have you see past them too. Get out there and start trying. No woman who is shallow is worth being with anyway---just keep at it. Bald guys do alright--fat guys too. Short guys and little weenies do good too. A cleft palate is no big deal.Have fun and good hunting
2006-12-22 18:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a great personality then that is all you need. I have met guys who I didn't think looked that great but after getting to know him and finding out what he was like on the inside I found that I had a huge crush on that person. but you need to be More confident, if you are not confident then that makes you unapproachable. BTW you do know that this problem is something that is repaired all the time, if it bothers you that much you should check into it.
2006-12-22 18:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by beachchic705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then it isn't that bad. Some people have it worse then you, and the cleft lip is something that makes you you. One of the biggest things in life is learning to be confident in yourself; the quicker you learn that, the better off your going to be.
Go get 'em tiger! Hahaha...
2006-12-22 18:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cleft lips arn't that bad. you got jaquin pheonix going for you. I know a guy from highschool got a real cute girl. so hot, so so hot. and his whole mouth was turned side ways. so just ignore it. youre fine. women dont care about that stuff anyway (so they say.)
2006-12-22 18:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by fuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a woman out there for every man
2006-12-22 18:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if women tell you you are hot, why not believe them.
2006-12-22 19:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋