how do i feel happy when i'm so lonely?? i'll be surrounded by family, but i don't have anyone "special" to spend it with, and everyone else does!! i am so sad and everyone else is so happy, so i try to pretend i am too, but i'm really not!!
2006-12-22 18:30:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You choose not to have anyone special, it's your mindset that makes you feel like that. This Christmas I will be spending it away from my family for the first time, I will be with my boyfriend, which is neat because it will be our first Christmas physically together but I would give anything in the world to be home with my family. Be thankful that you do have some one to spend Christmas with, the "special" someone will come...Merry Christmas!
2006-12-22 18:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by NamGem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone else doesn't have someone else to spend Christmas with! I have answered no less than three questions just tonight from people who are alone at Christmas and feel just the same way you do. You are buying in to all the commercials you see on TV of happy families gathered around the family dinner table all dressed in their Sunday best in a house all lit up with candles and lights. Even for those who have families and have the family dinner and the house all decorated it's not the ideal picture you see on TV. We have the sister who has to come late because she has to wait to get her kids back from her ex. We have the drunk Uncle who likes to hug on everyone and "accidentally" cop a feel. We have the kids who would rather throw their food than eat it. We have the father who would rather be watching a ball game. Life is not like TV. I just answered a question by a woman who HAS family but pretended she is going out of town for Christmas to avoid seeing them because they are not her idea of "perfect." This is just a hard season. We try to live up to what we see in our minds as ideal in the mistaken belief that will bring us happiness but it never does. We must find peace within ourselves. We must find peace in whatever situation we are in at the moment. The only way to find it is through the real meaning of the season - the birth of God's Son Jesus Christ. Take the focus off of the commercialism and try to appreciate the real gift that was given so long ago. Don't pretend to be happy. Find that happiness. Pursue it. Let God be that special one you spend your Christmas with. He just may bless you with another special someone to spend it with next year. He did for me!
2006-12-22 18:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find peace and happiness in what you do have, many don't even have that. Take the time to do something for someone that would least expect it. Do you know another person that may also be lonely, go spend time with them. Do you know a mom that has to get some last minute things done but has kids to watch, go watch them for her. Doing for others with out expectations is the one true source of happiness.
2006-12-22 18:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Joanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is a spirit and be thankful for what you DO have. I have no one special and NO family left--but I am a firefighter and I see people in pretty bad shape for Christmas--no home, sick, hungry, lonesome. The tree is a beacon of hope and a reminder of how we should be living our lives. Be nice, smile, it's a great life if you let be. You can't expect anymore than that--enjoy the dinner, the family, the gifts--it all comes fromthe heart---have a coffee on christmas--think of me and I will do the same--thinking of you--I'm in New Jersey. Merry Christmas
2006-12-22 20:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas can be a depressing time. I feel you there. Do something for you, that you enjoy. Don't focus on what you don't have but focus on all that you do have. Remember that the grass always looks greener. Family is special enjoy them! They probably aren't as happy as they look either.. realize that you are not alone but make the best of it and live on!
2006-12-22 19:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by weareonvacation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop dwelling on ur loneliness first of all just enjoy being around ur family and let everything else go.be happy for ur family having someone to share with.maybe someone special is going to be ur new years gift so dont despair.the right time will come and u will rememmber this christmas with a laugh.
2006-12-22 19:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by mwm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres how to cheer up;
you have a roof over your head - think about the homeless
you have food in your house - think about the kids in ethiopia
you have a family - think of the aids orphans
you have eyes to see
you have ears to hear
you have a nose that smells
you have legs that can walk
do I need to carry on?
Ps 23v5
Even though I walk
through the valley of the shadow of death, [a]
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.
Enjoy his comfort and know in the right time - HE will fulfill all your hearts desires
2006-12-22 18:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its area of transforming into up. The issues that used to seem so exciting lose their luster. Your no longer as relatively entertained via santa, and all the goofy Christmas stuff. trip journeys would be exciting back once you grow previous and function childrens to share it with.
2016-10-15 11:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by arleta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you pretend you are happy if you are not? Can you teach me on "how to pretend to be happy"!! Sound hypocrite!!!
Feeling lonely, then, find something to do!That's simple!
2006-12-22 19:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Melon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what Christmas is really about, It's about droping all of your problems an recieve the gift of God an rejoice for our savior is born. You'll never be alone again you'll have the Christ child with you.
2006-12-22 18:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Smiley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋