i love my bf so much but i dont trust him. he is acting very nice to me and being the man i always wanted but i feel its just for the holidays. he never stays this way for long. i feel it coming. well im starting to look at other guys and daydream. i still love my bf. he has hurt me a great deal in the past and im sronger now to deal with it when it comes. the thing is i know its coming and i want to get along with him. what if he has really changed this time? i still got a bad feeling though. i just cant relax cuz i feel the bad day is coming cuz it always has. i love him but i might need to find me another guy. i dont know what to do. plz give me some insight. if i leave him it will be hard as hell cuz im so attached. i really dont know what to do. i dont want to start talking to other guys cuz i love him but at the same time i do want to talk to other guys cuz i feel he wont change what should i do. should i ask him if he wants us both to date other people? plz help.
2006-12-22 17:41:31 · 8 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to stare reality in the face and swallow it even if it hurts. you know in your heart, and it's clear that you do, that it's going down. you're in denial because you don't want it to go down.
you know it's going down. repeat that to yourself over and over again. it's going down. anyway you look at it, you still know that it's going down. the only way to end your confusion is to stare reality in the face - confront it like the strong ************ you are and give yourself time to mourn, because it hurts like a ...
2006-12-22 19:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by awfef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the number 1 thing in a relationship. Without trust you can never be happy.
If he's already hurt you before, it will happen again. You should have ended it then. And since he is the one who messed up, you don't have to ask. Let him know that you can't trust him, and it has to end.
Don't confuse your love for him with the feeling of being comfortable and secure in a relationship. You can have the same thing but with a better guy who you can trust.
2006-12-23 01:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by darrahdragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a chat to him about things, thing is if ur both dating other ppl what's the point of then being in a relationship? U shouldn't need to find some other dude if ur truly happy with the way things are in the r'ship. I'm a dude, but i've been in the same kind of situation where i knew the end was coming, but couldn't bring myself to end things cos i was attached. Things did end, but the point is that u end up realising that its not such a bad thing.
2006-12-23 01:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by hegimony1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel ya. but honestly trust is the most important thing n a relationship. and i know u love him its easy to get used to someone . nothin like a ol habbit right. but are u truely happy? if your day dreamin bout other guys and wanna get out there and see what there like do it, dont cheat tho. talk to him maybe he feels the same way. if not then at least he'll know how u feel and if he really loves u what ur feelin matters most
2006-12-23 01:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by leslie0754 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should ask yourslef, "is there anything else he can give me that I need, and can I learn more by being with him?" If you answer no to those questions, then most likely you should talk to him, and see what his perspective on things are, good luck hon.
2006-12-23 02:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by brokenheart_xo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up with him if things are so bad. Otherwise, what's the problem? I think you might be overanalyzing things, or not explaining things in the best way. Good night!
2006-12-23 01:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him and move on after you've had your fun.
2006-12-23 02:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out now!
2006-12-23 01:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by froggy_lover84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋