What do you do and should do if you see and want to talk to a shy person?

Answer 1

Try to talk a lot with him/her...and make him/her your friend...so that he can become more active in talking with you and you can have a great time !!

Answer 2

Shy people won't initiate conversations so it's really up to you to do the talking first. Just go up to them and start out small - little things that they may take an interest in. Little by little, the more you start making small conversations, the shy person will see you as someone who wants to try to get to know them. They may be brief at first when answering you, but as time goes by and as you initiate more and more conversations, they may open up a lot more.

This has been happening to me recently. I'm opening up to a few people I work with because they start the conversations. A girl I share a room with has done this with me, and I found myself opening up to her more, just because the little conversations add up. I now see her as someone who is trying to get to know me, and I'm feeling a little more secure in opening up.

For me personally, I open up better in one-on-one situations. If there are a lot of people around, I'm SO much more reluctant to speak.

Also - smile at them and say hello! That is a great way to make them feel at ease. Some shy people have a secret desire to want to be noticed even though they hate the spotlight. It's one of the weirdest and most frustrating conflicts you experience when you're shy.

Also -- email is a GREAT way to get to know a shy person. I open up SO much more in writing than I do in speaking. Try that as well.

Don't give up -- it just takes time and patience. Good luck!

Answer 3

hey there!my sister is painfully shy,even around me!But i find if i ask a lot of open question "so what are your plans for today?" as oppsosed to a closed question"are you up tp anyting today?" it helps with the flow of the conversation.Just stay at their level,don't stand above them or anything and show positive body language so don't have your arms crossed when talking to them.
if you see a shy person you want to talk to just approach them in a friendly matter and try not to be too over the top(a few of my friends do this cos my sister's shyness makes them nervous and my sister hates it!)

Answer 4

My little brother, man he's so shy. Shy around his older brother. I just ask him simple stuff that's easy, and he usually starts talking about it and then into something else as well, like he was ready to talk the whole time or something.. Just keep it simple and real. Like nothing personal, No "what are you doing for christmas? or tonight? or this weekend?" None of that. But something simple like "Do you know if it's supposed to rain today?" haha.. or "I'm hungry, are you?"..

lol

Answer 5

Start by greeting them everyday, then ask them about themselves in very open-ended questons ("What do you think about_____?",...) Just don't come on too strong or too familiar. Some people are shy, wanting human company but too afraid to go after it. But others are just reserved. They don't trust, like or respect others easily. If you find yourself dealing with this, just be kind to them, invite them to conversation but don't push too hard for warmth or openess. It could be months or years before they reciprocate in full. Many people like this make loving, true friends and good confidantes. Of course, they could be schizotypal, too, but just keep your eyes open.

Answer 6

just go talk to em. don't go shout 'hey! haw ya doin" and slap them on the back, just go normally introduce urself without being too loud.
a shy person doesn't mind talking but make sure the way you introduce urself does not make everyone else in the vicinity stare at that person. besides that nothing special.

Answer 7

If the person is really shy, then I recommend the Victorian etiquette approach, give them a letter of introduction, stating who you are, where your are from and desired intentions. It should be written or at least signed by a mutual acquaintance and a request for response should be included.

Answer 8

Just go up and talk to them. Keep making conversation too. Just because they are shy doesn't mean they won't answer back!

Answer 9

You need to put more effort into talking to them and don't mistake their shyness for lack of interest or them being rude. I'm shy and I can't really control it... my friends are always very talkative and it took a while of knowing and talking to them for me to open up.

Answer 10

You be the bigger person and make the first move and just go up and start talking to them. Be really kind and dont move to fast , and who knows who could make a dear friend for life.

Answer 11

smile a lot, laugh at the little jokes or coincidences, be enthusiastic, ask questions, talk about things the person can relate to. talk to this person often and maybe you'll see them coming out of their shell :)