How to be happy around Xmas?

Question

People been telling me to be happy because it is christmas time, But it is hard because My best friend is in jail, My other best friend tried to kill himself and he is in icu . And my other best friend dad just died Today.How do you stay happy when this has happen with in The last 5 days? i need Help please.

P.S. i have no Folks around here. i am along my nearest folk are over 2000 miles away and i have no way to get to them since i have pets. i don't trust no one with my Pets and i am not puting them in the pound.

i forgot to let you.i am handicap so i can not donate my time to soup line or shovel snow,

Answer 1

Sometimes you just can't be. You can't force yourself to be happy. You could try to look on the bright side... roof over your head, food in your stomach, etc. But sometimes Christmas just isn't special. One year I had the flu, bad, on Christmas day. One year my fiance dumped me 2 months before. Both of those Christmases were miserable.

Edit: Since you can't spend xmas with your folks, but you have pets, have a Christmas with just you and your pets. Buy them presents. Seeing them happy will make you happy (at least it makes me happy to see my cats happy). Have a nice Christmas dinner with your pets. For dogs, give them some real meat (no onions, nutmeg, grapes or raisins, and of course chocolate, all those things are bad for animals). If you have cats, they may like a can of fancy feast, a small piece of meat, or maybe just some catnip. You know your pets best. Let your pets bring you a little happiness.

Answer 2

Sounds like you're having a really tough time. I know the feeling! My great uncle just passed away, my brother is having some hard times and none of us are able to do Christmas gifts this year. I know its hard (impossible, maybe) to get the Christmas spirit when you have no family around and you're facing all these problems. Why don't you look into helping out at a local homeless shelter, or volunteering to visit patients in the nursing home or hospital on Christmas? There are several other people who have no family or friends to come see them- it'll make you feel good to brighten up someone else's Christmas, and that will - in turn- brighten up yours!

You and your friends are in my prayers!!

Merry Christmas =)

Answer 3

yeah i do not feel very happy this year myself, my Mom passed away last september, my kids would rather spend xmas with their friends, my best friend and I are no longer on friendly terms, I am overloaded with debt, and am feeling as if the light at the end of the tunnel is uber miles away. while at first feeling sorry for myself I thought hell its just another day, and I can take in a movie and do my laundry after all not everybody celebrates this christian holiday and anyway I saw a commercial that said Christmas is for giving and it was from some company that makes a BIG profit off of xmas, so I got pi s sed off and I thought well then why aren't these SAME big companies GIVING to poor people and hungry people and building homes for the homeless and lost people instad of selling all this plastic crap and glittery look what I got S H I T. this is not what christmas is about AT ALL. and I can meditate on what life is worth and the SPIRITUAL (not religious) meaning of life better at the laundromat than in a house full of greed pretense and lighted fake trees, and i'm not bitter I am just sick of the fact that everybody thinks they are so special, and THATS NOT what xmas OR life is about at all either. and I have 3 cats I would rather spend my day with than a few others I could mention, but its gonna get better, trust me. Hang in there.

Answer 4

You determine your own state of mind, and realistically, none of the events you describe have a basis to cause you the kind of grief that would put you into the kind of funk that would ruin your enjoyment of the spirit of the Holidays.. You're not in jail. You did not try to kill yourself, and your father did not just die. Therefore you have no reason not to celebrate this Holiday Season . I'm not saysing that you disrespect the memory of your friends - and their troubles, but you have a life to live and to celebrate too.

There is so much in life to be glum about these days the war in Iraq, Isreal, The West Bank, Lebanon, Syria, Afganistan, Iraq, & Iran,, Continuing skirmishes between Pakistan and Banglidesh, and India. North Korea is doing underground Testing of Nuclear Bombs, China and Hong Kong are almost at war over soverignty issues, worldwide terrorism continuses to spread, new case of the bird flue continue to break out in China, earthquakes in Mongolia kill tens of thousands, and on and on and on .

And then there is the hope and Joy that Chistmas offers us all, the promise of of a new begining, a time of good tidings and great joy. A time of celebration, and new life, the freshnesss and purity of new fallen snow, the cold crisp winter's eve's nights filled with the sounds of silver bells and carolers singing the songs of the season, - Silent Night, Deck the Halls, O Little Towne Of Bethlehem, The smells of roast ham and turkey, egg nogg, and popcorn balls, hard candy, and peanut brittle. Sweet potatoes and cranberrys, yule logs and Mistletoe, the smell of pine boughs, and hot spiced tea.

The laughter of childrren makes the air sparkle, the aroma of baking cookies warms the chilly night, the crackle of the fire, wards of the frost on the window panes, and the falling snow quiets the edges of the traffic noise, and softens the light cast by the street lights. Bells are ringing on every corner. Lovers stroll hand and hand - bundled up and close together - holding tight to stay warm - snuggling close murmuring low through scarves punctuated by puffs of steamy breath that looks like woodsmoke.

Look around you at this Winter Wonderland you are in, how lucky you are to be an American, a free man in a free country, Want to get in the Christmas Spirit? Volunteer at a soup kitchen, ring a bell at a salvation army kettle and carol while your doing it. Visit a Childrens Hospital or a Nursing Home as a Volunteer, Go caroling - by yourself if you have to. Make hot chocolat and pass it out on the street to those who pass by. Make cookies and do the same thing. Make Christmas sandwiches and pass them out to the homeless.

Go find a small urban church, tell them you would like to buy and deliver a Christmas Dinner to a family who would otherwise go without. Take the time to ask about the family, learn something about them, perhaps the dinner might include a couple of gifts for the children - if you've got the bread to spare.

My Gram's used to say that the best way to start feeling better about yourself was to do for others. And so it still is today. it's not too late man, - shovel a neighbor's walk, run an errand for a shut-in. Smile at all you see, and greet all you pass with a "Merry Christmas" or a heart felt "Seasons Greetings" Get a Santa's Hat and wear it. If you try to feel it, you will start to look it. As you start to look it to others, they will respond to you, as they respond to you, you will start responding to them, and before you know it, you WILL have the SPIRIT of the season. Hang with people who have the spirit of the Season - get that Karma going for you too!! Good Luck and Merry Christmas!

I'm pulling for you!

Answer 5

The holidays are a hard time of year for a lot of people. The suicide rates are higher now than at any other time of year. Perhaps people see the commercials on TV of the happy family gatherings and it makes them focus on the fact that they are alone. Truth is there is no perfect family. The holiday in the commercial sense is just for children. For us parents and adults its extra expense and hard work. What helps me it trying to focus on the real meaning of the season. This is to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ which was the greatest gift anyone can ever receive. Even with all the bad that's going on in your life God cared enough about you to send His Son to die for you so that you might have happiness and peace. You just have to get to know Him first. Don't be a victim of your circumstances. God can help you rise above all the trouble and loneliness in your life. Give Him a chance. People will let you down. God never will. He's never let me down.

I'm saying a prayer for God to give you peace in this holiday season!

Answer 6

Christmas is about remembering the good things. We celebrate Jesus's birth. If your friend is in jail, it's because they belong there and maybe can better themselves and turn their life around. That would be good. Be glad your friend was saved and in ICU instead of dead. Be glad you have best friends you care about, because many don't. I know sometimes it can seem like you get bogged down, but you have to look at the positive and go on. None of these things however has to do with Christmas. You have to remember what it is and why you celebrate it. You are forgetting that.

Answer 7

This seems like a stress for you to be under... and I don't think you should feel obligated to feel happy on Christmas just because most times people are. When Christmas comes just try to relax a little bit and try to remember the feelings you had on past years... Being able to relax and have fun a little should help you be less depressed about all this, though it is understandable...

Answer 8

I understand that this time of year is hard especially with friends or loved ones not around. If you believe in Jesus Christ, remember He is the Reason for the Season. Also, if you have people around you who love you and care about you I am sure they can be a warm comfort to you as well. Here is a word of encouragment, "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" (Philippians 4:4).

Answer 9

Wow, the only advise I can offer is to visit your friend in the ICU and be there for him as well as the friend who's Dad passed away. You will definitely feel better knowing you helped them through their bad times. Talk, talk and talk to these guys and be there for them. I wish you the best. Also, spending time with your family should help too. Good luck..

Answer 10

Just lay all your problems an sorrows at the feet of Him who we celebrate that is the birth of Jesus, He was born to heel the broken hearted an to set the captive free, He has given us hope and a future Through His death on the cross. Now man has gone through so much as He did for us, even while we were yet sinners He died for that we may be for given of the Father in heaven.