What do you think I should do?

Question

This is my third attempt at posting this question so please don't be harsh if it's worded wrong, as it won't get passed the censors for some reason.

Please help me. I am serious and I'm not joking. Family issues. My mom hates me and she doesn't talk to me or like spending time with me. My dad doesn't understand me even if he tries to. I feel like noone really understands me or my situation. I know I have depression and I know I have anger management issues, but I really need help. I have seeked counseling before and went to a therapist but I quit it. I am thinking of going back to her. What do you guys think? I make a mountain out of a molehills and my dad says I hate the world. Well, that is not true. I just tend to overreact to little things that people do. I know that I shouldn't because I can't control them or their actions, but I was just thinking that I could be assertive. For example, today I hesitatingly went to see Night at the Museum with my folks and brother, even though I

really didn't want to. So then I enjoyed the movie for the most part except this stupid person in the back of me kicked my chair and I didn't say anything so yeah I kinda just became mad for the rest of the movie. Then before that, we went to a theatre that I didn't really want to go to. I always have bad days, how can I fix this and also be more assertive? I'm an aries and just trying to live up to being one if you can understand?

thanks for being so understanding guys, and no I'm 22. I'm not in my teens anymore and i'm kinda glad I'm passed that.

I was on some medication before though.

The side effects were detrimental so I stopped it. But thanks for the kind words everyone. =)

Answer 1

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i'll chat and hopefully make you feel better darl

Answer 2

Your mum doesn't hate you, I think she is in a place where she doesn't know how to act and react to you because of your behavior. Its your behavior she wont be able to deal with not you, you sound a lot like my youngest she is now twenty, I have felt like I have been walking on egg shells with her for many years, always trying to keep the peace always trying to let her know that she's OK but apparently not doing a good job of it....so I guess I'm on the flip side of you and feeling somewhat like your mum at present and not quite sure where to go to next. My advice is that you go back to your Dr, go back to the counselor and work at improving what your text implies which is fixing the behaviors in yourself that you don't like and that others have difficulty handling. Be patient with yourself and your family, it may surprise you to know that your family is just as frustrated and confused as yourself. Things will improve, my daughter will now tell me she loves me and on a good day I get a hug, I live for those moments and handle the rest. Good luck my friend, remember no one can change you only yourself and you have to want to do that for yourself and no one else.
PS I have cable now and dont often go to theatres because people are usually kicking seats, talking or eating so loudly you cant hear the film :-) sometimes people are just plain ignorant!

Answer 3

I think that understanding you need help puts you at a huge advantage over many people that've had these problems. Seeking therapy again is your best option, but if you quit going to your therapist originally, I assume there was a reason. I would suggest trying to go to a different therapist.

The thing with psychology, especially as a soft science, is that different therapists work for different people, and you just have to find the right one for you.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

Go back to therapy, but therapy alone may not enough treatment for you. Ask the therapist for a referral for a psychiatrist, so you can get properly diagnosed and put on medication at least for awhile. Medicine is good because it levels off a person's mood and it allows for the therapy to have a better chance of working.

Answer 5

I dont know tough age just save some cash and move out but be kind to your folks when you move no loose ends. Get a bank account Good job stay positive and change. Just look at the folks in the depression era they went through tough times in makes you stronger rich people dont work for their money i feel sorry for them. Change stay positive get goals all easier said than done but its the answer.

Answer 6

My opinion is:

If your around people you don't like, or people that make you feel bad, get away from those people. I don't know you situation very well, or the least bit, but try to hang around different people to start off with. If you were seeing someone about your problems and it didn't work out, try someone else. You should try medicication to make you feel better, if its that bad. My mother has severe depression and i can tell you that medication can truly help. I also have many siblings with Anxiety, Bi-polar, ADD, ADHD, and many other problems. My father also has Anxiety, Bi-polar, and ADHD, for him medication works too.

If a certain medication didn't work out, try another one.

Hope I helped!! Email me anytime!

Answer 7

Sounds like you are having a miserable time. Talk to youre family and let them know how you feel and get their feelings out in the open. Keep going to your therapist, this is the best thing you can do right now for yourself. I hope everything will work out for you.

Answer 8

my friend we all have those kind of days but you think everyone hates why please be more positive please go to a doctor of psychiatry they will help you more...as for the movie and the person kicking just move a confrontation would not be wise than your parents would blame you your parents have issues in the way they treat you my friend so try to not be around them so much and give them that positive attitude even when its not positive show them you are a caring person and I know you are just by your question...please get help because your family is overpowering your ability to get better bless you luv kara

Answer 9

Are you on any anti anxiety meds? I am, and it TOTALLY helped. How old are you? That really does play a part. . . I'm not blowing it off as normal for your age, but there are ALOT of hormonal and chemical things going on in a teenager. Seeing a doctor/theripst steadily (that you feel comfortable with) and meds will help. Good luck ;)

Answer 10

I am going to assume you are a teenager.. I'm sure you Mom doesn't hate you..no mother hates their child. It's hard being a teenager and it's harder being a parent. Maybe because you harbor anger inside, your Mom feels it's better to distance herself, although she shouldn't. If you wan't to email me, (I'm a mom who raised two girls on my own..they are both in college) sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger than your friends or parents or even your therapist. All I can offer is advise and a Mom's perspective. i won't harp or judge, just offer honest advise. Even though you find it hard to believe, us Moms were all teenagers once too and went through the same things...even though you kids tend to think we didn't..
Please email me to talk... [e-mail]

Answer 11

All counselors are not created equal! If the one you were using before did not help...which it does not sound like...find another than will. Family counseling sounds like it would be great for all of you if your parents would be game. Good luck!