I need your help..... (my second attempt at posting this question)?

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Please help me. I am serious and I'm not joking. Family issues. My mom hates me and she doesn't talk to me or like spending time with me. My dad doesn't understand me even if he tries to. I feel like noone really understands me or my situation. I know I have depression and I know I have anger management issues, but I really need help. I have seeked counseling before and went to a therapist but I quit it. I am thinking of going back to her. What do you guys think? I make a mountain out of a molehills and my dad says I hate the world. Well, that is not true. I just tend to overreact to little things that people do. I know that I shouldn't because I can't control them or their actions, but I was just thinking that I could be assertive. For example, today I hesitatingly went to see Night at the Museum with my folks and brother, even though I really didn't want to. So then I enjoyed the movie for the most part except this stupid person in the back of me kicked my chair and I didn't...
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say anything so yeah I kinda just became mad for the rest of the movie. Then before that, we went to a theatre that I didn't really want to go to. I always have bad days, how can I fix this and also be more assertive? I'm an aries and just trying to live up to being one if you can understand?

Answer 1

Hi Caring45f, I think your ok, anyone would be depressed if they've gone through what you have and I have been through a similar situation. I endlessly do things to help out and I've felt that it still wasn't good enough.
You need to keep your mind open, and look for a counselor or a Therapist. I went through a few Therapists. I was really tired of being depressed and I guess I really wanted to move forward. I finally found a Therapist I felt comfortable with. Someone I got to see once a week for an hour. We developed some kind of a 'friendship'. I unloaded all my problems to one person who helped me untangle so many million things I had on my mind. He let me work at my pace and make my own decisions.
You shouldn't be deprived of seeing someone if your asking for help. If your parents won't help you in this area, talk to a school counselor or your Medical Doctor. It's helped me a great deal Caring, and I am confident enough to understand that I don't have to follow the pattern of life I was taught. That I didn't need to be a 'people pleaser' in order to be happy. I do a lot more for myself. I look and feel great. I touch base once in a while with my Therapist, my friend. Everything is confidential. I can organize my thoughts and I think clearer. I've actually met a few nice people and have a best friend that I can talk to about my problems and I'm there for her when she's got stuff going on.
Give it a chance honey, find a Therapist to help you move forward so that you can enjoy life too!! It's there for all of us, you just need to 'grab it'. Things will get better if you let it!!
P/S - I gave you a thumbs up for your question because I think a lot of people can identify with your situation. It helps to know your not alone in the boat.

Answer 2

Sounds like you're a teenager having a tough time, which is pretty standard. Try therapy again, and if this therapist can't help, try a different one. Your parents can go to therapy too, it's called family counseling. If you have depression, some medication may help and it's worth trying.
You're in charge of how you choose to react to any situation, the situation is not in charge of you.
You might want to try getting into the Big Brothers/Big Sisters program. They assign someone to you who will listen and try to encourage you to be your best. It's a great program, you should look into it. Otherwise, you might try school sports, a mentoring program, or even a theatre program. Theatre will teach you how to discipline yourself and you can learn how to interact with others, and it's fun.

Answer 3

Hi, to begin with based on your information, it sounds like your mom might be just as frustrated as you seem to be. Your dad seems to be trying to help but he is probably just as frustrated as you and your mom. There is a difference between being assertive and being angry. I donot believe that this is a condition that can be fixed on your own and certainly donot try to live up to a horoscope or your astrological sign. They arenot specific to your problem. I am pleased that you enjoyed the movie. You told us that you were talking to a therapist at one time. I believe that you may want to consider therapy again. You may always choose a diffirent therapist - perhaps one that could assist you in working with anger management. You may need to try medication for awhile depending on what you and your doctor decide. I would suggest that you work on your issues first, then maybe your family would like to come in for family therapy. Think of yourself first, seek help, and try to stick with it. Life is not going to change overnight but I'll bet you'll feel better about your life knowing that you are doing something to help yourself.

Answer 4

okay lets see you said you are thinking about going back to your therapist that would be a great start.as for your mom hating you
ive always told my kids that no matter what i love them,but some
times i dont like them.that my be what your mom is feeling now.
talking to them would probably be a good thing to.they dont know how your feeling unless you tell them.you really want help and your parents or therapist are good places to start.when i was younger i was just as angry.and my sister did the same thing,
of course my mom is a pain who always wanted things done exactly her way or the highway.corny i know but very true.try
to have a good christmas.things will get better.

Answer 5

im really sorry about this!!! i feel like nobody understands me either do u have any close cousins or aunts or uncles u could go stay with that can help u with this kinds of things but i'm i not sure that u should go stay with ur mom again because if she going to act like she don't care for u and stuff like that then u don't deserve her and u deserve more!! nobody is perfect so she cant expect u to be a perfect person sometimes we wish we were but it don't work like that!!!! but anyways i say that u either stay with ur dad or go stay with a cousin or something cause nobody under the age of 18 should be miserable in there own house they suppose to enjoy there life not hate it!! but i hope u the best of luck!!!! GOD BLESS!!!! if u ever need anybody to talk to just write me at [e-mail]

Kimberly