Last year, I made a vow that I'd find love by this Christmas. Well, it hasn't happened. As a matter of fact, I've made the same vow for more years than I care to remember. Should I just forget it and give up? Geez... there must be something wrong with me.
2006-12-22 17:17:19 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't give up . . . just re-shift your mind. Personally, I've ' benched ' myself from dating for awhile. I take that as I'm sitting on the 'sidelines' yet still observing and paying attention to the 'game'. What do I do from being 'benched' on the sidelines? I have some personal thinking time, try to figure out the 'game' on the field, understand those in the 'game' . . . I'm not changing the 'game', just changing (shifting) how I respond to others in the dating world. In the meantime, while I have myself 'benched', I 'date' myself . . . I call friends to do things, 'take myself out' to enjoy events, places, company of what pleases me...I read, watch, listen, observe, come to know my own self more inside and why / how I relate to others in the dating world, why men relate to me as they do in the dating world. . . I could state more, but I'll just close here with...don't give up, simply take a breather and use that time constructively to enjoy your own company, those of friends, enjoy new things, rediscover who you are inside and how you feel you should be related towards. .. zen and chill and enjoy...then, when you feel the time is right...go back out 'there'.
2006-12-22 17:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, don't forget about it. Just stop looking so hard for it.
Because you are out looking for love, you keep missing it. Stay in one place long enough for it to find you.
Love is one of those things that kind of sneaks up on you. Once you have it, it changes and grows into something great.
So just take a break.
You don't find love. Love finds you.
2006-12-22 17:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing wrong is promising yourself something that is causing you so much pressure that it probably shows---you probably act like a man in heat and going to die if it doesn't happen. Now--take it slow and be nice--be yourself, let your personality shine through--the right girl will eventually notice you and everything will change. Keep your sights on the future--but there are no promises or deadlines....it will happen. If you self evaluate yourself, you may see some flaws that hamper your progress---work on fixing them. But you can't beat being just plain NICE--smile, be respectful, talk as an intelligent man, dress appropriately, keep your hands to yourself. Love is an emotion---a feeling that one gets when the time and the person is just right---can't force it. Cool it. Get a new place to hang out, read books on relationships and what makes quality ones. No guarantees that santa will just bring one. Merry xmas
2006-12-22 17:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there's most likely nothing wrong with you. Everyone goes through a point in life like this. I would probably suggest not to give up on love in itself but maybe give up on your quest for love. Find something else to distract yourself, a hobby maybe, and there is a good chance that you will find love doing something that you love. Trust me, I've seen it happen. That's the approach I'm taking. If nothing else, I'll be more productive. Good luck!
2006-12-22 17:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by crazed college student 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, forget about finding love and let it find you. You're trying too hard to force something that happens naturally. Give up and find other ways to be happy. In doing so, you'll open yourself up to new possibilities that you didn't even know existed.
2006-12-22 17:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by AileneWright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you at all. If you believe there is, now that could be a problem. I say do not look it will find you. If not then you never waisted any time looking, and no expect ions to gain none to loose. play it safe in other words. You can not demand love to come to you at any time, you surrender to it, so let it come to you so you can have the opportunity to surrender to it k...you'll be OK :) Never give up on love, tho you may want to give up on your strategy.I believe there is some one out there for you as is there some one for everyone.
2006-12-22 17:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mijoecha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you.. you can not just go out and find love. It will happen on it's own when you least expect it. I find if you go looking for love it turns out to be forced and not natural and doesn't work out as well if you just let it come to you.
2006-12-22 17:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look too hard and you will find that someone when you least expect it. I know you've heard this many times before, but ............it's happened to me more than once in this lifetime. Never give up. There is nothing wrong with you. Just be yourself and don't rush things. Your patience will be rewarded.
2006-12-22 17:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on a lot of things...........
How old are you?
Have you been in love b4?
Do you spend WAY too much time inside on your computer?
Have you actually been looking? If so where?
Come to think of it, it is never too late, but if you think it is then you will probably be creating a situation where you may not find it.
Good luck!
2006-12-22 17:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by djtanybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I think that is how plenty of people are. I can relate to you because the holiday season is good for that sort of thing. But you are putting too much expectations in your plate. Its easier to get with someone and then enjoy the holidays when it arrives. Your premise is to actually fall in love in Christmas time. Sorry dude, the probably of that is a bit tougher to achieve especially if that is what your intentions are.
2006-12-22 17:22:47 · answer #10 · answered by sk20007623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋