advice on things that are not good for the first date with a guy, please? anything that will keep a guy or figure out if hes good, or whatever..just let me know anything!! thanks!!
2006-12-22 17:17:19 · 14 answers · asked by davis chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first thing is, relax, it's not brain surgery, it's just a night out with some guy. You will hear this a lot, but it's very important, "be yourself". That way, you can just enjoy your time with him and he with you.
Get him to talk about the things he likes, movies, sports, books, television, etc. The list is endless, and if you like something he does, talk about that. People love sharing what they enjoy.
Don't do anything over the top, keep the date simple, dinner and a movie, have been favorites, from before movies could talk. And for a good reason, no matter how good or bad the movie you see is, it's something you can discuss.
If you listen well, and that is a must on a first date, you will learn a lot about him, from what he says about the movie you saw.
So be yourself, relax, have fun, listen to what he says, and you will be going out again with him. Men love women you listen to their stories.
Good luck.
2006-12-22 17:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by johnb693 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband never went on a second date with any girl who tried to kiss him on the first date. He thought waiting until later was a sign of a lady.
Don't go to a movie. It does not leave you any room for interaction. Although you could go out afterward and talk about the movie, since you are just getting to know each other, you should do something where you can talk about yourselves.
Dinner is always good. It shows if he has manners. Does he let you order first (gentleman) , suggest an appetizer (he is not a tight-wad), can he make good conversation, etc.
2006-12-22 17:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't have sex! That's very important. Hell, you shouldn't have sex nearly as soon as people do in practice. Better to save it for VERY serious relationships (at least six months, I'd say -- and then, that's not very long).
Other than that, don't nag. Don't talk about your ex bf's, or anything like that. Don't complain about anything in general -- no one wants to hang out with anyone who's a depressing person.
Oh yeah . . . I almost forgot: movies are generally bad ideas because you can't get to know the other person while you're in a movie theater! No talking, right? Well, that's what you need to be doing on dates.
Good luck!
2006-12-22 17:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what too look for?
Manners, chews with his mouth closed, napkin on lap, etc.
Opens doors, your car door too.
Listens to what you say and asks questions based on what you have said.
Pays for everything (you can pay for stuff latter, 4th date or later if you plan it).
Watch the tip. 15% for meals is standard. If he tips below he is selfish, if he tips at about 15% then about average, if he tips over then he is a generous person.
Kindness to wait staff and/or service employees, if he's not nice to them then eventually he will not be nice and kind to you. Especially if they mess up, he should be kind and forgiving. If he can't get past a simple mistake then how do you think he will treat you in the long run.
Be honest with your self and him and give shy guys several dates to see who they really are.
2006-12-22 17:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by hogie0101 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's never a good idea to fart on your first date. But if it does happen you will definitely find out if he, at the least, has a sense of humor
2006-12-22 17:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple.......sex! If you're not ready, don't! If you ARE ready, then make him wait until after 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 dates.
2006-12-22 17:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by artutina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
draw your line on the first date dont let him feel you up or do any stupid junk get to know him first romance can come later. if he is a total idiot he will try to make you feel as if restraining him from him male urges is bad. dont fall for it because if he loves you he will respect your wishes. and no sex it makes you seem easy and slut like
2006-12-22 17:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by Luna W 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
these pig headed ***holes dont know what they're talking about (the two first guys). dont go to the movies b/c all he'll try to do is make out with you. go to a simple resturant like... steak n shake or burger king and maybe the mall. keep it clean, it's only your first date.
2006-12-22 17:21:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Um, well there's the movies, restraint, sports event, shopping, anything that will let you know just how much of a gentlmen he truly is.
2006-12-22 18:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by brokenheart_xo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure you put out on the first date. That will give you an idea what he is like.
2006-12-22 17:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by Willie Knox 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋