2006-12-22 17:14:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't. You never know what's going to happen. He might cheat on you tomorrow.
2006-12-22 17:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer.. When you do not have to ask questions like that one. ( no offense but if you have to ask, you dont know)
Long answer.. Make a list of the things you demand in a potential mate. EVERYTHING. Then see how many of them describe him. Now here is the fun part. ready.. EVERTHING that you listed that desctibe him delete from your list. Take a look at the things that are left. By the way, if nothing is left you are lieing to yourself and you need to start over. When you look at the things left, ask yourself.. do I really need / want those things? Then rate those things. 1-100. Such as....
I want three kids He wants 2 so your at 66 % right.. no... I mean rate it how it relates to your desires.
I want three kids.. 100% no question I have to have 3 kids.
50% Id be happy with two
75% Id be happy with two if I get one boy one girl.
You get the idea. Then take those things and place them inthe order from highest to lowest based on percentages
When you have done that sit down with him. If he doesnt even want the conversation then you have your answer. See what he thinks about the things on your list that are not him. Are these things he can change (change is NOT the best answer all the time so be carefull here) Are these things that you can live without or that he is willing to give you.
Here is an example for you....
My name is Richard. As you probably know a nickname for Richard is Dick. This is what I went by for YEARS before I met my wife. She asked me shortly after we became serious to not go by dick but either Richard or Rick. It was important to her, but not to me so I quit going by Dick.
2006-12-22 17:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by Texas Tiger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the time to get to know the person. Learn how they will treat you when they are angry, sad, down, or having a bad day.
Do they mistreat you, disrespect you, call you names, or do things that hurt you in some way?
How do they treat you when things are going good?
If you truly have a 2-way love relationship where you each sacrifice for the good of the other to meet each other's needs and respect each other such that you can treat each other right even if you are angry, down or having a bad day, then I would say you are off to a good start and that you have found the ONE who is right for you.
Don't settle for someone who disrespects or mistreats you now. It will only get worse after you get married or after you have been together for a longer period of time.
2006-12-22 18:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if he loves you more than you love him. He must respect you at all times. You need to be able to relate on a non-sexual level, as well as sexual. I wouldn't marry a guy until I had been with him long enough for the in love phase to pass, so I could tell if there's something real and long term there, or if it's just infatuation.
2006-12-22 17:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by T.M.Y. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhhh tough one i would have to say u would know when u met him cuz he would give a weird feeling dat u have never felt before but in a way it seems like u do know him..... it will be completely different from everybody else... like if ur in a room full of people coming n going suddenly you see this guy come in u just want to go to him for watever feeling u just do, u dont want to lose in dat crowd..... y of all those people???? dont worry u will know when da time is right..... u would do anything to keep him, makin him happy cuz u'll be happy tooo.... u would die for him... u just cant seem to get enough of him.... u'll miss him even if its only been one minute since he left.... you will feel hollow, uncomplete without seein him... ask your heart it knows da best n da answer
2006-12-22 17:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by lito-azndr3am3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that person shares similar interests with you and hobbies to,, if he calls you out the blues, message you on your phone when his missing you and also the little things he does you hated becomes can be liked now.. you do the things you hate just because he likes it.. and most important he never late for the date he plan with you and buy you gifts without a reason.. is a sure keeper^).. but most of all never change because you find the prefect guy.. keep yourself happy and your self-esteem.. and guys likes that..
2006-12-22 17:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by SimileyDaisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a choice, lust passes. do you both agree on the BIG issues? can you argue and fight without losing it? what about kids? do you both want them or not? Do you agree on how they should be raised/disiplined? Would you move for his job? Would he move for yours? Have you considered that he might be the "one for you" now but that in 10 years he won't be?
people change and grow--and not always together-it is a choice to stay or go-which would you make?
2006-12-22 18:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know by the way you feel, Does your heart bound when you see each other do you get excited to here from him, is he all you think of there much more but only your heart would know, Good luck I hope he's the one.
2006-12-22 17:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by Smiley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they want what makes you happy....when you want what makes them happy.
When they respect you as a person....when you respect them as a person
When your life is better because they're in it....when their life is better because you're in it.
2006-12-22 17:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you happy togeether? if yes, then she's the right one!
2006-12-22 17:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by maya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋