In an arguement with the father of my son, he pushed me. We had been together for 4 years, and I decided that push leads to shove and then to hitting and I am not up for the ride so I left. But, his family does not seem to understand (even though, they were once abused by their spouses) so they are pretty much meddling and trying to involve my three year old as a bases for a reconcilation. I just want to be left alone, even though I voiced that it just get through to him nor them. Any advice???
2006-12-22 17:00:58 · 4 answers · asked by aprilkadenkobe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Keep telling them you don't care what they think and they can keep their opinions to themselves. Go over less and when they ask why, tell them. Don't let them use your son to try to get you to change your mind. Be firm and consistent. They should get through their thick heads eventually.
2006-12-22 17:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to talk to anybody you don't want to talk to. If they call to inquire, just hang up the phone with a curt "I've made my decision, and I'm sticking to it". If they come to visit you, make a point of being as unwelcoming as possible. Eventually, they'll either get the point or get tired of trying. Either way, they'll stop trying to influence your decision on the matter.
My only real concern here is for your son. You can control what you do and how you respond to the situation, but ultimately, your son is going to be a pawn in this struggle between you and your ex. What kind of measures have you taken already (or plan to take) to protect him from being placed in the middle of this battle? By the way, the ex's family is completely wrong to try to put him in the middle of this too, which is all the more reason to just not talk to them anymore.
I wish you the best of luck on dealing with this very thorny situation.
2006-12-23 01:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its too bad you picked such a cr*ppy guy to be the father of your son. And then you have to add to it an equally cr*ppy family. Seems like you are now in a situation that you'll have to get out of and your son will not grow up with a father. Too bad people don't choose more wisely. Tell them to back off your child or they will never see him again.
2006-12-23 02:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maby you could get a restraining order against him or his family.
Have you filed for divorce?
Is there some sort of (cardv) "center against rape and domestic violence" in your area? My sister talked to (cardv) when she broke up with her husband, then she talked to me. She talked with me because she thought most all the volunteers for cardv were,and I quote, "Man hating, lesbian, recruiters" so if there is one of those offices to get help from near you just take every bit of help from everyone with a grain of salt.
I hope you find the answers you are looking for, no one deserves to be abused.
2006-12-23 01:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jungleroy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋