im in a long distance relationship with a guy. he tells me he really loves me but his actions doesn't show. we only communicate thru the internet, that is when he's not busy. he doesn't exert any effort at all to communicate with me, he just waits for the time when he's not busy. i feel he doesn't love me at all but gives me hope when he tells me he does. pls help me i know i should start not believing him but i keep hoping that he really loves me.
2006-12-22 16:57:30 · 7 answers · asked by angela 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Going through a similar situation right now. You gotta look at the facts. If he only contacts you when he's bored, he's probably got something else going on. If someone really likes/loves you, they will find the time to get in touch with you no matter how busy they are. Period. I know you don't want to hear this but, don't contact him for awhile and see how long it takes him to contact you. If it takes him more than a week, don't bother. He's doing other things with other people and keeping you on the backburner for his own amusement. When he does contact you, take a day or so to answer him back. There's no need to rush for someone who isn't considerate enough to get in touch with you if he loves you.
2006-12-22 17:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
of course he can only communicate with you when he's not busy. but when you mean that he doesn't exert any effort to do so is not a good sign. you should go see him more or ask him to visit you more often. if he refuses then you know how much you weigh in his life. if he does try and make some efforts, he cares. if someone doesn't love you, move on. it's gonna be painful and you're wasting your time! sorry....
2006-12-23 01:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun, to tell you the truth, Long distance realationships never work. And if he can't make time for you then he is not worth it. He is prolly sittin back laughin. Tell him either he needs to show more affectionate behavior, or you are gunna break it off because you can not keep living on lose ends of the rope in the realationship
2006-12-23 01:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go by his actions...by what he does...not what he says. No, I know this isn't what you want to hear but, this is not love, as you've described it. Long distance relationships are difficult, at best, to maintain. My best advice to you is to let it go and find someone who enjoys your company and makes an effort to spend time with you ----not just a couple of e-mails when he can squeeze you in. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-23 01:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you're talking about. Been there, done that. I know people would tell us to end it with this guy but it's not that easy is it. They do give us hope. We can be ready to leave then - bingo! He gets in touch and says he loves us and gives us hope again. I don't have the strength to leave. Do you? I can only say if you don't know him, if you know nothing about his past, then you should drop him. I know mine and don't have the strength to leave him. I hope you are stronger than me. But then we fear emptiness when it's over. I don't know what else to say except I sympathize and good luck.
2006-12-23 01:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No hurry, wait and see. Or dump !
2006-12-23 01:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by nomad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he doesn't love you. He doesn't know you, and you don't know him. It is ludicrous to talk about love under these circumstances.
2006-12-23 01:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋