So it looks like I'm about to go on my first lunch date in several years (and my first since starting college). I understand that the best way to act during your first date is just be yourself, and I certainly intend to. But, ladies, what do I absolutely AVOID doing on a first date?
2006-12-22 16:29:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't keep your mobile/cell phone switched on.
2006-12-22 16:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do all the talking. She'll think you are self-centered and not interested in her. It's a form of verbal masturbation using the girl as the audience, and it's a huge turn-off.
Don't short the waitstaff unless the service was absolutely horrible. I tend to check out, very subtlely, if the guy is leaving a decent tip. Says a lot about a man. BTW, the going tipping rate is now 20% in most cities. That's the minimum. Probably 25% if you're in a high-end establishment.
Don't spill soup down the front of your shirt. :D
Don't be overt about checking out other women in the place. It's distracting, and women often notice this. It's also rude. You don't have to zero in on your date every second, but don't blatantly ogle other women.
Don't ever put a used napkin on the table if you must leave the table mid-meal (like going to the restroom, etc.). Put the napkin on your chair seat. Don't forget to pull out her chair for her.
Have fun!
2006-12-23 00:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is always a good thing to relax and be yourself on the first date. The things to avoid on the first date is talking about sexual experiences some woman find this offensive or sometimes just out right rude because they feel your hinting at something. Do not over power the conversation but make sue it is a two party conversation. This way she feels your listening to her and that you can carry a conversation as well. Never talk about or compare her to ex's. That is a BIG NO!!!! Watch you manners, sure her your intelligence as well as a good sense of humor and you should be fine.
2006-12-23 00:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by Chula 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you are going out to eat, the number one rule is obviously to have good table manners, don't chew with your mouth open, spill sauce on yourself, etc. Don't be self absorbed, but don't be shy either. Balance talking about yourself and listening to what she has to say. Don't move to fast, go at whatever pace she is comfortable with. Be a gentleman and be charming. Be kind and funny and make her fall under your spell. Just be yourself, but don't give her too strong of a dose. Be the perfect man, but show her that you have flaws too, no one is perfect. To be sucessful, you must leave her wanting to spend more time with you.
2006-12-23 00:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by Volleychick21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT:
1-talk about your past girlfriends or why you broke up, although if she asks give a brief synopsis of the relationship, under 2 minutes.
2-talk about sex stuff in any way and no disclosure of the partner number.
3-look needy or over anxious, we don't like that.
DO:
1-Be a gentleman, open doors, take out her chair, compliment one thing, clothes or hair or all together, don't go overboard.
2-Be yourself, have fun, pretend you are out with a long lost bud and you are catching up. No cursing though.
Good luck!
2006-12-23 00:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since it's been a while, don't stare at other women. If you find yourself about to wonder snap out of it.
No clinging. Give her space.
Pay attention.
Open the door.
Compliment her and be sincere when you do it.
And most important pay for everything. No dutch!! Be a gentleman. Show her chivalry is not dead.
2006-12-23 00:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not forget to bring her a flower. Even carnations are a nice jester.
Do not forget to open the car door for her.
Do not do all of the talking. Let her say something.
Do not forget to hold her chair, and slide it gently under her.
Do not insist that you kiss or have sex. Wait and let the relationship grow.
2006-12-23 00:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AVOID these
1. talking about your ex (or lack of)
2. negative self talk (don't tell her it is first day in 100 years.. and so on.)
3. being cheep (nothing is worth then a cheap man)
4. being too cool (trying too hard)
5. being too nice ( cheesy nice)
trust your instincts and be CONFIDENT. Good Luck.
2006-12-23 00:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Vita Privata 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont start talking about your ex
dont come in all sweaty
dont say i love you on the first date
dont try to kiss her so soon
act impressive
be a gentleman
comliment her on small details like bracelets and earrings
2006-12-23 00:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by yewny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well lets hope your not trying to hit any bases its a lunch date for goodness sake.
2006-12-23 00:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by froggy_lover84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't come on too strong. Most woman now days don't like a man who controls everything. However, we do like feeling that man can take care of us. It's a thin line.
2006-12-23 00:34:20 · answer #11 · answered by Amous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋