My boyfriend just admitted to me that he was bi, and that he may want a relationship with a man instead of woman. I'm not inclined to leave him. Should I offer him a threesome with another man in a last ditch effort to save our relationship. I love him more than anything.
2006-12-22 16:23:18 · 16 answers · asked by Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to mention that we have a 2 year old son together. He is beautiful and I would rather him have a bi dad than no dad at all
2006-12-22 16:40:25 · update #1
Yes, you may love this man....but sweetie you can't change him, he has told you that he wants a man instead of a woman....I have a saying "There is no way a woman can compete with another man for another man's affection" no way.
You inviting him to a threesome with the other guy...is not good the other guy may not like women......You say you're not inclined to leave this man....I would highly suggest that you re-evaluate that decision.....why do this to yourself? and why subject your child to this...it's not fair to either of you...
He's made a choice....and now it's time for you to start looking at this realistically, instead of dismissing this and thinking of alternative ways to save your relationship......
Listen to yourself, if you're having thoughts of saving the relationship then it's already over.......But, life goes on...and so should you....
There is no way in hell you could ever trust this man. Is he having unprotected sex? these are questions you need to start asking.
2006-12-22 17:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ebonee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like a situation that might be right for a polyamorous relationship.
Polyamory is a descriptive term which contrasts with monogamy, for the practice or lifestyle of a person being open to more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time, with full knowledge and consent by others involved in their life. A polyamorous outlook thus rejects sexual or emotional exclusivity as a necessity within a long-term loving relationship.
For more information, check-out the links below. This may be the way to get what you all want from the relationship. Especially if you're okay with sharing him.
2006-12-24 06:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NICE!
You can NOT do a 3-way (MMF) unless YOU are COMPLETELY COOL with IT and BI yourself.
First you will probably end up doing both men after you watched; no amount of love can make that nice unless you are TOTALLY OPEN to the deal. NO man is worth that unless you embrace the OPEN LIFESTYLE.
If you are fine with the total open thing suggest a trade; he gets his MMF and then you get a FFM in return.
If he goes for it, then you are BEING USED to satisfy his excessive drive.
I am as straight as they come and have had Gay friends that I socialize with. One thing that I have learned that Gay/BI men will SCR$% mud if it is at body temperature. It is simply, sex, conquest and release for them and they just can not get enough.
Think about what YOU want and then go for it. If you can't deal with the whole program move on and wish him luck. Just do NOT allow him to USE YOU because you are ARE ABOVE THAT!
Good luck and Happy Holidays,
J
2006-12-22 16:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by jacquesstcroix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how old he is whether he is going through a confused stage. If he is only young, a teenager then that may be the case, if he is older than probably not, he probably has been confused about his sexuality and trying to fight his feelings and by having a girlfriend he may have thought everything would be ok, but now he has realised that he prefers guys and has been honest with you about it. I know you are devastated but there is nothing you can do about it except to wish him all the best and you move on and find a hetorosexual guy to be with.
2016-05-23 01:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy that indulges in sex with a man is a huge risk! And if he likes both sexes, he will NEVER be yours. He will always be looking towards the OTHER side. And what if you get pregnant and have his baby only to find out that he has AIDS? Dump his sorry ***. He does not love you anyway. If he did, he would have eyes only for you! And all of his other body parts as well.
2006-12-22 16:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Saying he's bi is just a failure to commit. He's gay. Do both of you a favor and let him move on so he can finish coming out of the closet.
2006-12-22 16:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well instead of offering him a threesome, you might want to sit him down and talk. tell him that you are comfortable with him being bi, and that you might be interested in experimenting as well. you need to tell him that you love him, and that you love him no matter what, his sexual orientation specifically.
2006-12-22 16:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you crazy there is no way you can save that relationship. just be friends with him or let him go forever because this is a lost case.
2006-12-22 16:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If that floats your boat, do it. Have well understood rules (u know on the side stuff or not.) Be safe of course. And decide what to do if the other guy wants to take on you......
2006-12-22 16:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Letting him be a fruit loop certainly isn't going to make him want you more. He'll want the forbidden. Not you.
2006-12-22 16:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Doug Church 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋