i lost my niece this year to a brain tumor... my sisters only daughter and she was only 17, now we are going thru the first holidays without her.. does it get any easier.. we are so torn up/// but we are still trying to have the holidays as a family please help
2006-12-22 16:15:38 · 17 answers · asked by greeneyebutterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It all depends on how your families deal with it. It will help to celebrate her life, not mourn her death.
Think of the good times, remember her for the fun and happiness you shared. Have a big picture of her smiling down on all of you as you open up your presents on Christmas day.
You just have to think positive and realize she would want you to be happy.
2006-12-22 16:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Apples 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your niece.... I know how you feel going through the holidays for the 1st time without someone you love.
I lost my daughter 9 years ago and it gets easier as time passes you just have to remember she will be with you and your family you all will feel her in your hearts and it might just make the holidays much happier for all of you. It takes time but you will be ok she is in a wonderful place.
I wish you all the best and god bless.
2006-12-22 16:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by navy_seabee_wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never going to be easy. I have also recently lost a family member. You just have to cope and reassure eachother you're there for one another. It doesn't have to be a sad holiday. It can still be fun. You guys can sit around the fire and share your memories about when your niece was with you. Just remember, as a family you are always 10x as stronger than you would be alone. You all can help eachother get through it. Don't worry. Warmest wishes and happy holidays!
2006-12-22 16:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I have never lost a child, however from those that I know that have they say it something you never really get over. i did loose my granddaughter two years ago and it is still very painful. My son is still quite upset, it helps that we talk about her a great deal. For us this has been very helpful to remember her and share memories. So, I really don't know how long it takes. My Pastor lost his only son 13 years ago and he said that some days the pain is so raw as if it were yesterday. But I do know it is different for everyone. A couple of years at least I would imagine to begin to heal and accept it. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Good luck and God bless****
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2016-10-15 11:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, It will get easier with time. Make the best of the holidays. Thats what your niece would have wanted anyway. Just keep reminding yourself that she's in a better place now and she's no longer suffering.
My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope that y'all truly have a blessed holiday(s).
2006-12-22 16:20:22 · answer #6 · answered by gloried 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly do not feel it ever gets easier. I lost my mother and father in the month of December, and it's no easier today than it was years ago. I lost my dad 23 years ago, and my mom 11 years ago. I miss them so much. I just ask God to help me get through them for the sake of my kids.
2006-12-22 16:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a hard thing to deal with but as time goes by it will get easier think of it this way would your niece want you all to be sad no shes in a better place then we are and some day you will all be together again when its your time
2006-12-22 16:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by harley w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone is different. First of all my heart goes out to you and your family. I lost my grandmother two years ago and she was like my best friend and it still hurts. You just have to take it one day at a time.
2006-12-22 16:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by Marina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss.
The first holidays, birthday, and other anniversary are always the hardest. It usually takes about two years for the pain to subside and for the good memories to take over. Just give yourself time, and be gentle with yourself.
2006-12-22 16:20:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋