I was seeing a girl at work who has a kid and lives with the dad.She was unhappy and we fell for each other.Things didnt go so good becauses I wanted her to leave and she said she couldnt and this caused problems plus we work together.Shes been with him for 8 years and never cheated until with me.Now she says shes feeling guilty and wants to tell him.I said If she was willing to tell him why didnt she just leave him.She wont be able to live with the guilt.He could leave or could stay but will never trust her making the relationship worse.He could go crazy and try to come after me but I hate him anyway for the way he has treated her so I told her One of us will end up hurt,dead or in jail so think about it.Shes kinda screwed and should have just left before getting with me so now its all a mess.Im hurt because were not seeing each other so she can get things straight with him.I wish she would just leave him cause everthings messed up now anyway.I should have stopped this from the start.
2006-12-22 16:07:52 · 14 answers · asked by Sincere923 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't tell him just for the reasons you say. You don't know how the guy will react. If you're not seeing you each other anymore she should just stay quiet about it and live with the guilt she helped create. I know you feel bad but it was both of you that started this, not you alone. Don't be so hard on yourself, what's done is done.
2006-12-22 16:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Do not tell him she cheated with you.
If you think this guy has a potential for violence, get away from them both as fast as you can.
Just chalk it up to experience and move on.
If she is ambivalent now, she probably always will be. You do not want this previous relationship constantly hanging over you and in between you.
It's unfortunate that you went into this thinking she would leave, but now you need to just do the right thing for YOU and walk away.
2006-12-22 16:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your falling for her, are you?
I really don't think you should have touched that one but you went there. If she doesn't want to tell him then she doesn't want to tell him thats her choice and her business, that proves right there that she is serious and wants to stay with him, she was wrong for cheating on her man and in the end your hurt. Leave it alone and move on, it sounds like she wants it to work with this guy rather than you. I hope I don't sound so harsh but it's really not worth your feelings getting hurt, if she cheated on this guy she was with for 8 years why would you trust her? Besides would you accept her children as well?
2006-12-22 16:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by åߪõ£úţέ мåŷá 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for asking this question yet once you're saying you stumbled on out he replaced into dishonest. did you capture him out? or did some different person? if its some different person ought to or not that's unfaithful? if so are you prepared to lose him over the prospect it may nicely be a lie? once you're saying hes the kind who would deny it are you one hundred% he's accountable and hence having no selection yet to disclaim it? for sure there is the prospect he may were unfaithful to you yet i imagine he a minimum of benefits the great thing about the doubt a minimum of until eventually you've spoken to him and heard his area.
2016-12-01 02:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she should maybe you and her were ment to be.....if she is unhappy and with a child staying with the father isnt all that great many people try to stay together for the child but that isnt healthy because then the child has to see the unhappiness and thats not good for any of them.....if she has fallen for you she needs to come clean and maybe start over with you i hope for the best all of you and i hope you all can be happy...also if he is that bad she should go to someone and get help
2006-12-22 16:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♫§weetTart§amantha♫♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. It sounds like you really care for her. i'm pretty sure if she tells him he would kick her out and things will get very ugly. She should tell her boyfriend or husband that shes not happy and say she wants to move out. give it a couple of weeks and then tell her to say she found a house and then when she moves in tell him about you two.
2006-12-22 16:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you should have stopped but oops.
She should tell him, let her if she wants too.
Maybe you will get lucky and he'll get pissed and leave her instead.
Sounds like she is too chicken to leave him, but in the back of her mind maybe she can make him leave. (could work).
If she wants, let her tell him, just be prepared you stepped into a family mess and he will blame you too.
2006-12-22 16:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by wornoutby3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about the kid? Think more about her and her kid than yourself.
"I hate him anyway for the way he has treated her." But honestly you're not treating her right either. Otherwise, you wouldn't have let her cheat with you.
2006-12-22 16:12:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. Why doesn't she just leave him. If he doesn't leave her after she tells him, he will never let her live it down. You guys should just run away together with the kid. Good luck!
2006-12-22 16:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by california girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE RIGHT THIS WAS SOMETHING THAT YOU SHOULD
HAVE STAY OUT OF, SHE MAY BE FEELING QUILT ABOUT
WHAT GOING ON, BUT SHE STILL WITH HIM, SO THAT
REALLY SHOULD TELL YOU SOMETHING, I JUST FEEL
IF YOU ARE SO UNHAPPY WITH THE SITUATION THEN LEAVE.BUT YOU DID THE RIGHT THING BY LEAVE THIS
ALONG, IF SHE REALLY WANT TO GET OUT THEN SHE
DOES NOT HAVE TO TELL HIM ANYTHING . JUST LIIVE
AND GO FROM THERE.
2006-12-22 16:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋