Ive been in this relationship for close to a year. We got off to a speed start, knew or at least thought we knew we wanted to get married and he proposed and everything very early... now its been two months since hes said "I love you" or even said anything remotly close to it... he keeps saying he need to find himself and ive changed, but personally I dont think I have, and Ive thought about it and thought about it and i cant put a finger on it... I really do love him with all my heart, and I havent seen him since August, is he trying to push me away so Im not heart broken? We live over 300 miles away from eachother and really I dont know when Ill get to see him next... does he want it to last? why did he just stop saying I love you to me? is he just letting me off easy? Im sooo hurt just being in limbo...
2006-12-22 15:56:42 · 13 answers · asked by GeT_uR_oWn_LiFe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion you should move on dear. Living that far apart and it's been since Aug. since you last seen him. If he proposed to you and gave you a ring, I suggest you keep it. Why? When a man gives a woman a ring it is a gift. So with that being said keep the gift. If you choose to sell it or whatever then do so maybe buy yourself a new outfit or something.
Have you ever just came out and asked him what was going on with this relationship? If not that may be something you want to do very soon. Otherwise then you'll be in this state of limbo and the unknown.
At least this way you'll be able to move on without the thought of thinking " I wonder if"
Think about this: What are your converstions like on the telephone? Are there long periods of silence? If you communicate online what are the converstations like there also.. Short? Non-personal? rushed?
If you answered Yes to any or even one of these questions then yes sweetheart he is pushing you away. I would be hurt as well, but again what I really suggest to you is pick up the telephone and give him a call. Find out once and for all what is going on with this relationship... This way you can move on with your life..
Don't be his side peice or trophy when he's in town or when you have a chance to visit him. It's not worth it and I am sure there are plenty of guys who find you attractive and would love a chance to be your man!
Good luck!! Now go give this boyfriend or whatever he is a call find out what's going on hun!!
2006-12-22 16:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow by the sounds of it you two have in a way drifted apart. The best thing you can do is ring him and organise to meet up and have a chat. I am unsure how long you two have been together but from what you say above you cannot live in doubt any longer. Have a chat and if you cant work things out and gove it another go then break it off and either stay friends or go your separate ways. I know you will be hurt no matter what but it will be better than not knowing. Also it means you can grow stronger and move on...Good luck chick and no that you are not alone... we have all been in your shoes once or twice in our lifetime
2006-12-22 16:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ehlana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let someone else make you so unhappy. It seems that if you haven't seen him since August ... he has moved on.
I think you should do the same and find someone who will really care about you.
I suggest looking for someone who lives closer than 300 miles away.
Good luck! The best is closer than you realize right now.
Actually, with the seasonal parties and social events going on go out and keep yourself open to new things.
Happy Holidays!!
2006-12-22 16:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable to feel hurt, since it appears that your relationship is ending. When someone says the reason is that you've changed, it's a not very nice way of saying, "you're not who I hoped you'd be" or "Oops, I've changed my mind". The message being sent is pretty clear, you're just reluctant to receive that message. He's stopped saying he loves you, because, for whatever reason, he has. It's likely not your fault, but the distance has allowed things to cool off. He's asking for space, and you should give it too him. Lot's of it. Time to move on girl. If he gets his act together, good. But....I wouldn't bet on it. Time to let the healing begin. Like pulling off a band-aid, sometimes it hurts less if ya do it fast. Good Luck.
2006-12-22 16:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jim N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships never work, you need to find someone closer to home. This man could have another girl you never know. How do you know that you love him so much by just talking on the phone, relationships require spending time together, I think you can answer your own question by following your heart.
2006-12-22 16:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by kneenipper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but the fact you haven't seen each other since August says a lot
2006-12-22 16:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by CARL G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesnt make much sense to me... you might have to add more detail. Does this mean youve been engaged for close to a year? Are you planning a wedding? If youre engaged this is serious
2006-12-22 15:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Christines256 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, please take a hint. Nobody stays away from someone they love and want to be with for 4 months without reason. The writing is on the wall, READ IT. Believe it, accept it, and move on.
2006-12-22 16:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships...not good.
Sounds like he's moved on and you are in love with the idea of being in love.
Time for YOU to focus on something more meaningful.....
2006-12-22 16:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT REALLY SOUND LIKE HE HAVE SECOND THOGHT ABOUT
THE REALTIONSHIP, AND SINCE BOTH OF YOU START
THIS VERY QUICKLY, MAYBE HE SEELING THAT IT HAS
GONE TO FAST. BUT NOW HE BACKING OFF, BUT
IF YOU WANT TO KNOW THE REAL DEAL.THEN IT TIME
TO ASK HIM AND GET EVERYTHING OUT IN THE OPEN,
MAYB BOTH OF YOU NEED THE SPACE RIGHT NOW.
2006-12-22 16:01:55 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋