I feel like a total pedophile! I'm 30 and she's 21, we hang out a lot and she's awesome. I wanna ask her out but I'm afraid she'll think I'm a creepy old man.
Please help, I really like her!
2006-12-22 15:42:17 · 17 answers · asked by Fred J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tech1- She's not jailbait. 16 is legal age in England, and besides..she's in her 20s, dude.
2006-12-22 15:46:17 · update #1
That's only 9 years! She is 21, so she's definitely not a minor, and age is just a state of mind. My parents are 20 years apart- that is a BIG age difference!
If she is mature and you really like her, then try to think about WHO she is, not how OLD she is.
2006-12-22 15:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by danni_d21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not that big of a deal; you guys are only 9 years apart.
it's actually kind of a fad right now, dating younger women. really, it's always been in (back in the day, men married women as young as 15 when they were in their 40s).
another thing-- YOU'RE ONLY THIRTY! you're far from being a creepy old man. and at 21, she's a legal adult, so you have nothing to worry about.
Good Luck!
2006-12-22 15:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She most likely wont. I am in a situation like that. Except mine is a little worse. The guy I like is 26. And sadly I am only 17. But It's very doubtful that she will think you are 'a creepy old man'. You are only 30. It could be worse. You're only 9 years older than her. Go for it. Ask her out!
Good luck!
2006-12-22 15:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 9 years older than me--21 and 30 is definitely OK. And at 30, you are definitely NOT a creepy old man!! LOL I say go for it, you are doing nothing wrong at all!! :):)
2006-12-22 15:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 years is a big difference but she is 21 if she like to hang with you she probably is attracted to you as will it not that bad if she was 16 then i would say something wrong, but go for it
2006-12-22 15:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by PhillyDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 29 years old and have been going out with a 20 year old and for me it is the best relationship i've ever been in
2006-12-22 15:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by jay_cfh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not bad,your only 9 yrs apart.me and my woman is 22 yrs apart,but we are both adults,and we know what we want in life.ok,so get back to your question,so you think she might think your a creepy old man huh.do you think she likes you?you wont know unless you ask her.ok,just say to her....how would you like to go and get a bite to eat and have some coffee,and just talk.who knows,she might just take to you.i hope you the best.
2006-12-22 16:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you something. what ive learned my first year of high school is that age aint nothin but a number. now dont do anything with her because your not married yet and you dont want to end up in jail. but anyway i was saying that when i first started high school there was this boy in my drama class that liked me and he was five years older than me. he was 18 and i was thirteen. but i didnt know at the time. even though we broke up i thought that we couldnt have something between us because of the fact of our age. but let me tell you. when we werent boyfriend and girlfriend anymore we used to play around alot with each other. hittin each other and slappin each other. and then hugging and making up. i mean if you saw us you would think we were lovers for life. but we werent. we were friends and even though distance is keeping us apart now it still brings alot of joy to my heart knowing i met someone like that. dont let her go because of age. explain to her briefly that you really like her and that you want you and her to be more than friends. but only if its okay with her. dont push to hard. you never know she could fall for you and you will fall for her and there could be some chemistry. follow your heart and enjoy the journey of a crush. its the way of life. tell her how you feel. dont force her to do anything she doesnt want to do. give her her space when she wants it and just let her know through emotion that you really care about her. if she seems cold then put your arms around her and make her feel warm. if she doesnt like it let go gently and dont pout. give her a chance and see where things go from there. good luck.
2006-12-22 15:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by shanice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man in love age is just a number it dosent matter how old you are as long as you love that person and you are willing to be with her in the good and bad times go for it man its worth the try
2006-12-22 15:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Answers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have dated a man that was 9 years older than me and my parents are 10years apart, I see no problem with it.
2006-12-22 15:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by WINGS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋