I had a serious girlfriend, she had 3 small tatoos (2 on her back and one on her ankle) and a piercing on her tongue, I didnt worry too much about it because all those "weido add-ons" were on places my family couldnt see them, and then she told me she was going to get a piercing just below her lower lip...so I dumped her and I never told her why, I didnt think it was my place to tell her what she could or couldn't pierce, but also becuase I thought that would be so embarrassing in front of my family and friends, in my opinion that type of piercing would make her look both tarty and weirdo at the same time...seriously, how can I marry a woman like that? what example would that set for our future kids? but I was wondering, in your opinion, am shallow or did I do the right thing?
2006-12-22 15:39:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you did the right thing, just in the wrong way. It's not good to stay with someone if you don't want to.If you knew there was no future for the 2 of you, by all means, don't drag it out. I think it would have been better of you to explain to her why you were breaking up though.
2006-12-22 15:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanne G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,
You are completely shallow and so are your family and friends if you/they judge a woman on her piercings and tats, as opposed to her heart and soul. I don't understand why you were with this girl in the first place. Don't worry though, you did her a favor, she is better off w out someone like you, and you did the right thing for yourself. I don't think that she belongs w someone superficial like you.
Try and swing by Ann Taylor and pick up a nice square that you can introduce to your family and friends, and then impregnate in the future. Sorry for the harshness, but you asked.
2006-12-22 15:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by lapoetsmoderator 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Appearance isn't everything thing you know. What I'm hearing is, you dumped a girl you really liked,didn't tell her why you dumped her,and all for your stupid male ego. I don't see why you couldn't have asked her to not get the piercing. If she really loved you she would have probably not done it. But you didn't even give her a chance! I am really glad your not my boyfriend!
-in cause you didn't take the hint: I think yes you were being shallow!
2006-12-22 15:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by yuuki chan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends how much you liked her and if I was you I would have sat her done and told her the truth like I really don't think that is a very good idea because you are to pretty to be putting holes in your face because that is what i was told and I didn't do what I wanted to do! Your not to much shallow your just afraid maybe because some people might think your controling but I really think you should have told her what you thought about it first!
2006-12-22 15:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were being a bit shallow. I think that this shows HER that YOU were not worth it because you didn't accept her as she is. You care more about your family's opinion than your relationship with her. How can you seriously hope to keep up a relationship with anyone if your family's opinion is breathing down your neck all the time? You weren't neccessarily wrong, but not accepting her for who she is is a bit shallow and, in my opinion only, sorta wrong. Does that make sense?
2006-12-22 15:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by natofield 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's an extremely exciting question. i comprehend some women folk that ***** approximately how shallow and floor adult adult males could be - and then turn around and say issues like, "I only date tall adult adult males," or "Ooooh, he has to have a six-%."...suggestions you, it quite is regularly from the flabbiest chick interior the room. never suggestions the earnings question! i won't be able to stand that thinking, and if those women folk could understand how hypocritical and shallow they're being, they won't be sitting around thinking why they're pushing 40 and nonetheless single - and not by utilising selection.
2016-10-05 22:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by spies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have told her why you broke up with her. i'm sorry, but that was really cold. if you love her enough, your disapproval of peircings can be won over by your love for her. and it's not your place to tell what she can and can not peirce---but it's also very rude, for you not to tell her why you dumped her. and just b/c she has peircings, and you all might have kids, what's to say, that the kids would have been just fine with thier mom's peircings? or that they might not have liked thier mom's peircings, but they still respected her, by telling her, that it was just fine with them for her to have peircings? do you honestly care about what your family/friends think/say about her peircings/tatoos? if you do, then you're no better than they are. appearance does not matter---she might look goth, but she could be very nice, and very sweet, and the perfect wife/mother on the inside. that's what matters truly. not appearance truly, it's personality that truly matters. if i was you, i would told them, to "back off". and she might look wierdo and tarty, but you should keep those opinions to yourself---and if your family/friends say anything about that, you should defend her, b/c you lover her. i mean, c'mon---my twin sister has belly button peircing, and wants to get a tatoo, but she's totally decent, and it would be one of those cool tatoos. and i might not like it that she got the peircing, but i told her, that i would support and defend her, in what ever she does---and i will. and part of that, means not telling our dad that she has a belly button peircing. my mom has a tatoo---it's a lizard on her ankle, and it's cool. my boyfriend also has a totally cool barbed wire tatoo on his upper arm. 2 tatoos is the limit for me---and not big ones either. and it depends on where peircings should be put---for guys, only on the ear. my boyfriend's totally sweet, and wonderful; my mom's great, and she's a funny; and my sister's in the Corps of Cadets, and funny too.
2006-12-22 16:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by K.D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do't think you were shallow at all. Obviously you don't like people who have piercings. You have nothing to be sorry for. But if you would like to continue being friends with her, call her and tell her exactly why you left her (She deserves to know).
2006-12-22 15:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. It's kind of a shame you didn't realize that sooner, but it's better to get out now. I'm shocked at how people don't realize how those "add-ons" make them look cheap. They do! Good night!
2006-12-22 15:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG that is soooo shallow that not nice it only a peircing a mean its not her if u really likes her u wouldnt have dumped her tut tut
2006-12-22 15:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by tasha a 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋