I don't want to have another relationship because i fear that my next partner will cheat on me. I just keep feeling that every guy i see and meet is a cheater. How can i overcome this fear? Or should i just stay single the rest of my life?
2006-12-22 15:33:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess somebody did the dirty on you? I sympathise but you can't let it ruin your happiness with every man you meet. You can't judge every man by the actions of one loser. Go on a date and enjoy it for what it is..a bit of fun. Take it slowly at the start of any new relationship and don't give them everything you have, hold back a little of yourself that's just for you. Trust needs to be earned but you need to give people a chance to try and win it. If someone cheats on you, it was never meant to be and youre better off without them. Just think of it as a lucky escape. It sounds like maybe you're still hurting though so maybe now's not the best time to start seeing other people. Have some single time for a while. Go out with your friends, enjoy being a free agent, recharge your batteries then when you do meet someone, you'll be ready to give things another go. Good luck x
2006-12-22 15:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't stay single. I would definitely keep dating, but don't rush into things....not EVERY man out there is a cheater, even though it seems like it to you at this point. It takes a while to get to know someone well, true colors don't come out until well into a relationship. Give the person the benefit of the doubt, but still watch for signs. Watch how he treats people, strangers and friends- how he treats his family, and most important how he treats you. You will eventually trust again. Good luck!! :)
2006-12-22 15:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of guys out there that feel the same way, because they also have their hearts broken also. Don't judge everyone before they have had an opportunity to show themselves. You will learn that trust is earned and not just given freely. This is why it is best to take things slowly. The guys that cheat will fall to the wayside and the ones that are worth hanging on to will stay for the long haul..
2006-12-22 15:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you've heard of the saying, no man is an Island. Well, this also apply's to a woman. You can try to stay single, but, you;ll slowly get lonely for affection and be looking for attention and you will have to take your chances like all of us do.
Good luck in you search for Mr Right. He's out there, just be patient and he'll find you.
2006-12-22 15:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost everyone goes through this. DONT give up. You get over this fear by "grabbing the bull by the horns" go out and date. it's not your fault if they cheat, it's theirs. They have issues where they cant end the relationship to pursue another.
2006-12-22 15:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS WRONG TO HAVE THIS OUTCOME, ALL MEN ARE NOT
THE SAME, THERE ARE SOME GOOD GUYS OUT HERE
THAT DONT CHEAT, BUT JUST LIKE ANY REALTIONSHIP
YOU JUST NEED TO TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME,
AND GET TO KNOW EACH MAN FOR WHAT HE IS, NOT
WHAT YOU THINK HE WILL DO. HE MAY BE THE LOVE
OF YOUR LIFE.
2006-12-22 15:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay single for the rest of your life
2006-12-22 15:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont even think about it that was just a way for you to find out that who you were dating was not right for you someone for you will come along
2006-12-22 15:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by slp9209 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cautious in your choices and take your chances..
Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
2006-12-22 15:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try using a more positive outlook.
2006-12-22 15:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋