Is meeting girls at bars/clubs supposed to be so difficult??

Question

I'm 21, live in NYC, very good looking, about to be 22, tonight was my first night going to an over 21 bar/club. However, I have no friends around my age or anyone to go with (the ones I have are either too busy or something always happens at the last minute) so I went with my father who's like 62 :-( I went there to have a drink, meet some girls, you know. We went to two of them and at the last one, I was sitting next to these two girls who were talking to each other at the bar, he kept telling me to talk to them but I was so scared, I didn't know what to say or what to do. So he asked them if they like basketball or football (cuz they were on TV there) and said that I wanted to know, at that point he introduced me to them and left. I talked to them for like 10 seconds but then they went back to talking to themselves, I didn't know what else to do. Everyone else there was either talking to guys or with their girlfriend. I feel so discouraged and depressed, feel like I don't know what I'm doing or how to play this whole thing with girls/bars. I feel like just saying to hell with it and pay a couple of hot girls to sleep with me like I've done a couple times before, but my father and everyone else I know think thats stupid because I'm not very ugly at all so it'd be a waste of money. But I don't know what the hell I'm doing or how to do it, why can't I just have a guy friend my age who would go with me and help me, I feel like saying I hate myself and my life right now but that would be the wrong thing to say, why should I hate myself? I'm trying to become and actor/screenwriter and I'm very creative, I have no reason to hate me. Anyone have any insight to offer?

Answer 1

Dude, it's like my neighbor told me once -- if you go alone, you stay alone. Anyway, bars are NOT good places to meet nice women.

I suggest you take a class, visit restaurants, volunteer for stuff, etc. And don't be so shy next time! All you have to do is BS for a few minutes (jokes help) and get the phone number. And remember, you will only succeed about 10% of the time. You really need to get the girl alone (or at least where no one else is listening) to talk to her also.

Cheer up! Good night!