We both have a bit of a jealous streak. I don't normally get jealous of him hanging around with girls, but I have a problem with girls flirting with him, which is obviously normal. I'm a complete tom-boy. I don't like dressing up, or painting my nails or any of that bullsh*t. I've always hung out with guys since I was like.. I dunno 4? I've never really stayed friends with any girls because of back stabbing and gossiping (I'm not saying all girls are like this, just ones I've ever hung out with) and I feel a lot more comfortable hanging out with guys. the other day he said he has problems with me having all guy friends, and I should make more girlfriends and that guys only want to be friends with me for one thing. I don't believe that guys are all like that seeing as thats all I've ever hung out with before. How can I explain to him that I'm not looking for someone to cheat on him with, and that I just feel more comfortable hangin with the boys?
2006-12-22 15:19:32 · 7 answers · asked by memoriesareabeach 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy friends I'm talking about are friends I've had before the relationship. I don't talk to exes. I've been friends with them for like 7 years and longer.
2006-12-22 15:28:07 · update #1
come on guys, he's not psycho. He just has insecurity and I just want to know how to talk to him about it without me thinking I'm not taking his feelings into consideration. I've known him for 11 years, I know how he is, I just don't know how to talk to him about having my own guy friends. He's not neccessarily telling me I -can't- have guy friends, he just wants me to have more chick friends than guy friends, and I don't think thats very fair when he knows that I don't like hanging out with girls.
2006-12-22 15:40:03 · update #2
My boyfriend doesn't like me talking to guys because all guys have one thing on their mind.
I think when you are in a relationship you should only talk to male friends that you had before the relationship started. New friends that are boys are definately out. And never ever betray your boyfriends confidence or talk about your relationship with other guys.
I'm sorry but I agree with your boyfriend.
2006-12-22 15:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I've had boyfriends who not didn't like me talking to guys but to anybody!! If a person doesn't trust you or is not accepting you for the type of person you are - they need to take a hike. You shouldn't have to be short changed of your likes in life for anyone - they should be part of your everything you enjoy.
A guy that is this controlling is obsessive and it doesn't get any better the majority of the time. It starts out where he makes you believe your the only one for hime and you couldn't live wihtout him eventually, he'll get you to spend less time with your friends, family, the things that you enjoy. He'll follow you around, embarass you and try to make your life miserable and become very volitale. You could be doing nothing wrong and he'll make you feel and even think that you did something terrible.
Correct things now because if the relationship continues and should you ever decide to break up with him, this type of a person is the type to stalk you. I'm not trying to scare you honey, just a word of advise from previous experiences.
Be careful honey, just be sure your happy 1st!!
2006-12-22 23:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by hot single mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, those guys whom you are talking are the competition he hates seeing. Cupcakes, if you want to keep your boyfriend for a while longer, stop talking to guys till your relantionship is over. No man likes his girl talking to some dudes whom might or might not get a chance to nail you when you and your boyfriend have a nasty fight. Give it pumkin, or he will give you up for a new hottie that listens to his whishes, then you will be sorry.
2006-12-22 23:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal and I would see how you have a connection with guys. But, if I were your boyfriend I would also be jealous and I wouldnt want you doing that alot. But right now you have to talk to your boyfriend and work things out and tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels about it.
2006-12-22 23:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both need to learn how to trust each other.
And as long as you have given your man no reason to feel threatened then he has to get it together and trust you. If he doesnt then you are going to be in for a long haul with this guy.
Good Luck
2006-12-22 23:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just who you are. If he can't accept that, then he is simply not the right guy for you. You shouldn't have to change under any circumstances.
2006-12-22 23:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by Liberty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly that he'll probably understand. Unless you have already. The I don't know.
2006-12-22 23:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by addict for dramatic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋