My ex emailed me and said he is engaged. We were together for a long, long time and were eachothers firsts, etc. I am engaged now to a great guy, but when I read the email I got this feeling inside like "WHAT!" and i felt a little jealous and sad. Is that normal??
2006-12-22 15:19:00 · 15 answers · asked by crazy22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, especially since you were each other's firsts. Email him back. I'm sure he felt the same way when you became engaged.
2006-12-22 15:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal you cannot share yourself with someone and not have some kind of feelings. You and he are starting a new chapter of your lives and the the last chapter is done. Whenever you say goodbye to anything you always think about the past and some old feelings come with the memories sort of like a jingle comes with the commercial or a theme song to a show on TV. Or a song on the radio takes you back to a place or time in your live and with that memory also comes feelings. Moving forward is scary, exciting, and there is no feelings to relate to it yet. So when you close a chapter of your life and you realize that all the people and things that made you who you are gone or changed or engaged you realize that the old you is gone and that what used to be wasn't meant to be for either one of you. Yeah a little feeling may come up... Congrats on your engagement! ...and You are still the bomb cause you were first :)
2006-12-22 15:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A certain amount of jealousy in every relationship is good. When it is to the point that it is absorbing time that could be spent enjoying yourselves that's when it's an issue. You are going to kill your relationship/future with him if you do not get a grip on your insecurity issues. The fact that he has a relationship with his ex is due to the child, even better that they do get along and it is drama free. You mention that you felt if she didn't approve of you, he wouldn't be marrying you, I think is probably an accurate account and don't you think as the mother of this child, she probably should have some input on who will be assisting or playing a role in the upbringing? With the relationship that these two have, I think it is only a very positive note that you have her blessing and their son's to marry, that is a compliment in my opinion, something that should make you feel good, not anything more or less. You've got to also know that there is going to be someone better looking than yourself and we're human, when we see someone attractive, we're going to look, look that's it. Read some self help books, even look at speaking with a therapist. Your fiance loves you and has accepted you for who you are, you need to do the same and you need to learn to love and accept yourself for who you are.
2016-05-22 21:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally norm. He will always be a part of you (somewhat) and he will alqays hold that spot in your heart. It doesn't mean you want him back. It is normal to feel jelous. Try to get over it and wish him well. Besides, I am sure you have a hunk of a man that you are engaged too as well
2006-12-22 15:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by Stasi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's jealousy you're feeling. Sounds like resentment to me. You're resenting the fact that you put in the time and someone else got the prize, so to speak. It's a natural feeling, i believe. That feeling will soon pass, and you'll go on and be happy with the guy you're with.
2006-12-22 15:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha Ha, yes, that is absolutely normal. Every friend of mine that I have that this has happened to, including myself, feel the same way. But this is just human instinct, it will pass, Plus you broke up for a reason, so I am sure that your soon to be husband is waaay better. Good Luck
2006-12-22 15:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by ronisizefan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE
you were in love with him
so hes always going to be a part off you
dont worry about it
its like that for everyone whose been in love
its not that you still love him its that even if you dont think so hes like one of your best friends and you probably want whats good for him and ur just a little freaked
2006-12-22 15:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is normal. Most girls want to feel like their first will always be longing for them. The reality is, they do not. Guys are not wired like girls. I still think about my ex, he probably hasn't thought about me in years.
2006-12-22 15:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE IT NORMAL TO FEEL SOME JEALOUS, YOU
AND THIS GUY WAS TOGETHER FOR A LONG PERIOD OF
TIME, SO IT NATURAL. BUT HE ENGAGED AND SO ARE YOU
SO WISH HIM WELL AND MOVE ON;
2006-12-22 15:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for some reason we don't want our exs to move on.It won't last it's just our first reaction.
2006-12-22 15:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋