ok So i was spending the night at my friends house and we sarted taking pictures withher moms digital camera....we uploaded them and put them on our bebo...Well her friend named Max (who she REALLY likes) was talking to us when he came apon the pictures and said that I was really pretty ...BUt he just kept going and going how pretty I was...We go to talking and he ended up likeing me...He asked me out (my friends HURT) and I said no....i mean I didnt klnow him too well...So a couple days have gone by and we have talked alot...HE is REALLY intrested in me like ALOT...But I told him that i didnt want to be with him becuz I didnt feel like i knew him enough .MORE days went by and I have fallen for him. He's sweet, kind, and says the nicest things to impress me...he tells me he luvs me at least 2wice a day I want to say YES but my heart says NO...WHAT SHOULD I DO....
I love him but I dont want to lead him on thinking we will be to together.I luv him but dont want to hurt him...HELP
2006-12-22 15:07:40 · 4 answers · asked by *Breath* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive alwso heard he is a player and I dont knwo if I can stand 1 more heartbreak...
2006-12-22 15:12:26 · update #1
this is always the toughest situation to be in. bewteen friendship and love. if you would have said that you liked this guys i would started by saying that you should try to move on. but you said you fell for him. while it's true that a friendship shouldnt just be thrown away, love shouldnt be thrown away either. but i think you can save both relationships. its going to be easy but it is possible. first off you could try keeping your relationship with this guy on the down low until you think that it's ok to come out to your friend about it. i once read a passage saying that the heart is the most treacherous of things. it may lead you to believe to wanting something that will bring you heartache. in this case your heart is telling you to back away from this guy. because you know it hurts your friend. but you really dont want to. so dont do it. try to salvage that love. you can also try, after you decide when its best to come out to your friend about the relationship, to sit down, you, your guy, and your friend and talk about it. by talking, people understand eachother. but dont feel guilty, its not like you porpusely tried to fall for the guy. i hope it works out for you.
2006-12-22 15:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry if this offends you, but you sound really young and immature. You don't love him anymore than he loves you. It is called infactuation. There is a big difference between the two.
This is a guy that you have never even gone out with, yet you say you love him, doesn't that sound strange to you?
Go out with him if you want, and if you are prepared to possibly loose a friend over it, but get over the idea that you guys love each other, cause that is not what love is hun.
Addition: I read you answer to my question and wanted to add something. Trust me honey, all us women have been there before and you may be crazy about him and would do anything for him, but that is not what real love is. Your not in love, you have a huge crush on him. I can bet you that you have already, or will sooner or later, have these same feelings for some other guy. I have been there before, and I know the feelings feel so real, but when you get older you will look back and realize that it was not real love.
2006-12-22 23:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl..you ethier love him or dont...make a decision...i would give it a try..and after a while if your heart still says no..then follow your heart...
2006-12-22 23:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cutie101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have sex with the guy. He will stop calling you then he can hook up with your friend.
2006-12-22 23:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by nethershadow007 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋