ok. I set my best friend up with a guy. hes super hot and really hot. we talked alot beofre they started going out. we still do, we also hang out sometimes with out her. she says its cool that her to favorite people r close, but i think im starting to fall in love with him yesterday i went over 2 his place because my friend is out of town. we wached a movie and ended up falling asleep on his couch together. (I swear NOTHING happend) we were tottaly like spooning though. it was weird, becuase we both like eachother. I know he likes me and i think im in love with him but i LOVE my best friend. and i would NEVER want to hurt her. i dont know if i should tell her about our night or not. and the guy i dont know how i could stay friends with him im so attracted to him. i really like him and i loved cuddling with him and i dont know if he was just trying to keep me warm by cuddling or if he ment more? dose he like me? I LOVE MY BEST FRIEND AND I AM NOT A S lut i just got myself in a bad place
2006-12-22 15:03:49 · 23 answers · asked by holly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find your own man
2006-12-22 15:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First ask yourself if this guy is a player or not. If he's a player, then it would not be worth throwing a good girl-friendship away for. Now if he's a decent guy, then that may be a different story.
I would find a good time to ask the guy what his thoughts are about you and him and about him and your best friend. Don't beat around the bush about your feelings. Be adult about it, tell the truth and handle the reaction like an adult. If he wants to be with you then be together. Your best friend will either understand or she won't. Best friends are important but this guy can be your bff also.
If he's start beating around the bush and say he doens't know what to do and he doesn't want to hurt your friend, then maybe he's not worth it. You deserve unconditional love. Love that is without regret. Love that's selfish. Love that needs no justification or no answering to other people. That is the only love that is worth throwing a friendship away for.
2006-12-22 15:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by redballoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault you just let things get out of hand, focus on something about him that bugs you. If you LOVE your best friend you definetely have a better chance of staying friends with her longer than this guy. Keep what you can and don't start anything that will jeapordize your relationships and definetely don't backstab your friend with one of the biggest knives on the earth. So basically, stop flirting as much as possible, maybe a week apart will really calm your little crush down too. It may hurt to do this to the guy, but if he comes around blow him off. Think how sad your friend would be. Hope this helped and Happy Holidays
2006-12-22 15:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people would probably disagree with me, but I would tell the guy how you feel. As much as you love your best friend, it's not the same love as you get from a relationship - nothing can compare to that. This guy could be your destiny. If it was me, and I didn't tell the guy the way I felt, I couldn't live with the regret. No regrets. They really suck. Follow your heart, your real heart, the heart that loves someone with all your being. Don't let this opportunity slip away from you. Grab it. Now.
2006-12-22 15:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by Liberty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm hey. open your ears and listen. Cuddiling or whatever you WANT to believe, is wrong in the first place. Back off from him. You set them up in the first place. If you really liked him, then you should have had at least a bit of common sense to not hook him up with her. your loss. he's hers not yours. oh yeah and if you do keep it up, that makes you even worse than a s lut. especially since that's your best friends man.
2006-12-22 15:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by nothing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like ur a homewrecker. lol im kidding. yo u knew him first. usually girls want to f uck the guy who introduces her to his friend. Its natural instinct. And guess what, thats what ends up happening most of the time. the introducer gets with the girl. I guess its the same with women. So yea, your friend will end up breaking up with him and youll get with him. It usually doesnt matter about looks or attraction its just the fact that every human is attracted to a strong individual of the opposite sex, which is interpreted when you as a woman or a man has the guts to introduce their friend to someone that they like. Hope everything works out with you and that guy. Youll probably lose the friend tho. Itll happen whether u want it to or not.
2006-12-22 15:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only clothes between spooning and phucing. So you are getting near the edge. If you would never want to hurt your best friend, then back off, and when you get worked up grab a vibrator instead of your best friend's guy. And yes, if you keep this up you are a SL-UT . . . but that's not all bad.
2006-12-22 15:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're no longer in love. you're in choose for. you're having the warmies for a guy that's a strolling pink flag. he's prepared to cheat on his female pal. that isn't substitute with you. you would be cheated on. he's your pal's boyfriend. He could be like nuclear waste. do no longer touch! the place is your loyalty? could you particularly throw away your pal for a guy who's a cheater? What does that say approximately you? he's not madely in love, he's head over heels in warmth. do no longer try this. Your integrity as a chum has have been given to intend greater desirable than this. good luck getting your priorities directly. This guy is definitely no longer somewhat worth it. he will cheat.
2016-10-18 21:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if she's your friend and if you value that friendship, Never ever be alone with that boy again. Start distancing yourself gently from any time spent with the two together. Boyfriends come and go, but a true and valued friendship is hard to replace.
2006-12-22 15:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay hon....I was in the same place...What I ended up doing was telling my friend how I felt...and she was cool with it because she knew we wouldn't do anything ((Okay, that and she was going to break up with him anyway)) What I would do is wait for them to split, tell her how you feel and explain why you waited to tell her....then, a while down the road, if you two still like each other, talk to your bff about it. Include her. She would need that!
2006-12-22 15:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by R*A*N*D*O*M* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I honestly do not think that you will be able to keep both.
Do you treasure your best friend?
or the possible feeling between you and this guy.
and I also suggest that you do not let him have the best of both worlds if you know what I mean.
2006-12-22 15:11:46 · answer #11 · answered by soh_rin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋