I need love advice from a women?
K check this out. my bff and i were crushin on this one guy for like 6 months. we werent jealous or ne thing but newayz my bff and this guy started going out . they dated for about 3 months and he dumped her. well she was hurt bad for a while but then got over it (shes hot so she got a new guy in like 3 days). but newayz i spend a lot of time with this guy cause we do all the same stuff and attend the same church. i kinda like this guy now, or again. am i wrong for this?? should i tell my bff or hide my feelings?? SOS PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP ME!!
2006-12-22 14:59:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, you are not wrong. you are just follwing your heart.
if you guys are truly bff you got to be able to tell.
be brave!!! you got to be expecting some kind of
hurt when you want to like someone.
2006-12-22 15:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your quite young - that said - it is always important for you to be open and honest with all the people in your life. And most of all honest with yourself. Tell your friend how you feel. Honesty is something that may get you into some trouble now and again - but the trouble is short lived and is way less than the guilt you carry around if you lie (outright or by ommision) At least with honesty you can sleep at night and look yourself in the eye and know you did the right thing.
2006-12-22 15:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bff has someone new, sometimes an ex can still be off limits, I suggest, if you care for her friendship tell her you like her ex and if it is ok by her, u can feel free to make your move. She will probably be fine with this as long as everything is on the level. If you go behind her back it's going to be a mess. and in my experience, not worth it. she is your friend. Put yourself in her shoes. I am sure she would not stand in the way of your happiness.
Good Luck
2006-12-22 15:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the rule of femaninism, is that you don't date a boy your friend(s) like, or have dated. But if you REALLY like him, you need to talk to your friend about it. Tell her that you like him, and you want her ok to go out with him. If it's going to bother her, you shouldn't do it. No one is worth your best friend! I've lost a friend that way. It isn't something I'm willing to do again!
If she's a good friend, she won't keep you from him, and she won't let her past feelings for him get in the way. Past feelings meaning, she might still like him, or she hates him for why they broke up.
Definately talk to her about it, and ask for her blessing. Otherwise she could resent you, and stop being your friend, or she could try and cause problems between the two of you. You need to make sure that it isn't going to bother her in any way shape or form. That will keep the both of you close friends, and keep the problems away, about guys. Or at least this one!
Best of luck to ya sweetie!!
2006-12-22 15:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, liking this guy again doesnt make you a bad person. he doesnt sound like a jerk. if it didnt work out between him and your friend, its probably because there was not much substance in their relationship. you mentioned she's hot. so that could've have been a big reason why he set her eyes on her instead of you. i think you should definately tell your friend how your feeling. im sure she will understand. after all, you said that you both had liked him at the beginning, and even though you didnt clarify, im guessing that she knew that you liked him too. and she still went out with him. so tell her about it. and continue hanging out with the guy and see where things lead. hope it works out.
2006-12-22 15:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think about it in reverse i mean if some guy broke your heart how would you feel if one of the people you trusted most in the world started dating him...and don't forget he could do the same to you is he really worth risking a friendship over?
2006-12-22 15:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by Toxic Lette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her outright if it would bother her if you asked him out. Tell her you wanted to ask her first because she's more important to you than a guy, but you have had a crush on him for a while.
If he really hurt her, though, is he a good guy for you?
2006-12-22 15:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't wrong...it can't be controlled. I think maybe you should have a heart to heart with your friend and see how she feels about this, because even if she acts like she is over him, she might not be...and just remember: Boys come and go, but friends are forever.
2006-12-22 15:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by R*A*N*D*O*M* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to boyfriend-girlfriend relationship you don't hide feelings. Its best you follow your heart. Don't hurt yourself and try not to hurt others' feelings. Speak your mind and move on from there!
2006-12-22 15:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can't give you the worlds best answer but if she is your
bestfriend then you should know how she will react so its on your instincs so if you think that she will react
in a mature manner then be the better woman and tell
but if you think its a bad idea then ask him to decide if he thinks its best
2006-12-22 15:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by Messiah Miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋