I'm 15 years old, and i live in Missouri.
My mom and i were fighting and he heard us and came up to "finish" it or something.. We were sitting down, then my mom went to get something out of my room to take it away from me and my step dad threw a chair at me, yelled at me about how good i have it, then ripped me out of the chair when i called him unreasonable... He ripped my shirt, and left bruses on my arms. I left the house, which amounted to me crying in the woods for three hours, and when i came back in for shoes, he put me in a head lock and i had to pry myself out of it... then he said they'd throw me in JJC with "the ni*****". Then he put up his fists and called me a pu***... he connected with my right jaw when he swung at me. When i tryed to tell me mom about it, she just said prove it, and he said the same thing... what should i do? i need help....
2006-12-22 14:51:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry, i'm still jittery...
"He" means my step-dad...
2006-12-22 14:54:46 · update #1
ok, i'm a little more collected, by "fighting with my mom", we were yelling at eachother, nothing physical
2006-12-22 16:31:30 · update #2
ok, i'm a little more collected, by "fighting with my mom", we were yelling at eachother, nothing physical
2006-12-22 16:33:28 · update #3
I'm out of the house, and with a friend... i talked to the cops too, thanks guys. :D
2006-12-24 06:30:15 · update #4
go to the police. tell them the situation. if you still have the bruises then that is proof. show it to them. when my husband grabbed my arm and left a bruise on me he was thrown in jail for one night but i went to court and told them it was an accident (i lied). and even after he went to jail he did it again. so it will happen again. tell the police and then call a relative to pick you up from the station. dont go back to the home because if they find out you went then they will get worse. try packing a few things instead of your books in your bookbag before you go. later, after the police take them to jail, you should be able to go back in and get your stuff. police take these things really seriously and will not brush you off without looking into it.
2006-12-22 14:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one is going to blame you for wanting to leave the house. Your situation is unsafe right about now and you probably won't get so lucky the next time.
I am sure you feel betrayal by your mother. And you now have even more of dislike for your step father. Whether you were being rebellious or not, to get into a physical fight with you is not called for. It is obvious that "he" has lost control.
Now that school is out for the holidays, you must go to the police. And if you don't have a ride, then call them to come to the house. You can't go on living your life in fear of what might happen next.
WE and me EVERYONE, need courage from you and that is to make the first call. Please understand your life might not be the safe after making that phone call, but at least you will be safe and know what your rights are. The police will either remove him from the house or place you in another home if one is not available for you.
Once safety has been restored to you, it is important that you do not take matters into your own hand or ignore the advice given to you. You must be strong enough to be willing to call for help anytime you are feeling unsafe.
Can you do this? Will you do this? Pick up the phone and make that call. And then come back and let us know you are safe.
Thank you! and good luck!
2006-12-22 23:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW. That is SOO not right.
That step dad is the worst dad on earth and he needs to learn how to be a dad or step out. Call the police NOW. You have bruises to prove that he is abusing you. Also, call a teen helpline and see what else you can do. If I were you, I'd pack my bags and go spend some time with another family member. You need to get out of the house asap.
I wish you the best! Be safe and have faith!
2006-12-22 23:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of there fast. This guy will hurt you, maybe even kill you. Your mother is a loser...sorry kid...but if she is siding with this prick then I'd kiss off your mom too.
I am so sorry for you. Please get out and go to the police and tell them you will not go back there under any circumstance, to put you in a foster home or something.
Believe me you will be better off. You're 15...I was working and going to school for 2 years by your age...you will be better off making a life for yourself without them, then living in that hell.
Don't stay. I know it's scary and it's painful and difficult, but leave. No child should have to put up with that. I know you're not a child anymore at 15 but you deserve a whole lot better than that.
Don't let your mom or this frickin idiot sour you for life. There's good people out there who will care for you...it's not going to be easy, but one day you'll make your own life and find someone to love who will make up for all this misery.
Please leave and leave now. Good luck sweets.
2006-12-22 22:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Omg i had the same problem, my step dad threw a table at me and started cussing anf he pushed me against a wall. That made me so mad but i cried and i ran away but then i came back for my stuf and stayed. You should tlk to a friend, a teacher, and some other person you trust, or in some cases, the police.
Best of wishes,
*Soccer Fan*
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-22 23:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Pre lives on 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry this is happening to you!! is there a trusted adult besides your mom you can talk to? like an aunt, a grandma, grandpa, uncle anyone who you can tell what is happening. if not go to the school counselor and your teacher and tell them that this is happening. they will know who to contact and if you tell them everything that has happened in the past and now they can find a safe place for you to go. it might be a family member or a close friend or someplace else. but you will be able to get out of the situation the more you speak up!! don't let anyone intimidate you or scare you off from getting out of a bad situation. i'll pray for you and i know you can do this!! BE STRONG!!
2006-12-22 23:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of what happened, no one should ever put their hands on u in that way. go to someone u trust and call the cops. if u have family members u can stay with, the cops will place u with them. u will not go to jail. he will. u dont have to prove he hit u, he has to prove to the judge that he didnt. he will be arrested on ur word alone. u are a child and they are adults who supposed to know how to handle situations without violence. GET OUT! ur mom is not protecting u from that moron. they're using reverse psychology so u wont call the cops. ur step dad is the one who should be afraid of going to jail. they beat up child abusers in there.
2006-12-22 23:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by jlicious 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, you need to go with some friends, or other family...and i think it might be best if you think it might go on to try and get some professional help from the cops if this doesnt stop. you are 15, and you might end up like a lot of other people in your situation, by turning into drugs, and doing other activities...email me if you want to chat about this...pinkbju@yahoo.com good luck
2006-12-22 23:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by brianju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get outta of the house find a friend's place to stay in. Ask for refuge for a few days. Chat with your school teachers about it, they should be more than willing to help you out kid. Take care man.
2006-12-22 22:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by cinabolic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first no one deserves that even if y ou did something terrible so call someone and you need to make yourself safe if its a family member or police do something.....i understand that the fear if you call the police there might be something bigger and worse but you have to be safe..... i have lived through this for 18 years and i know how it can be so be safe PRAY and you wil be just find follow you r heart and you r mind
2006-12-22 22:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by jrock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋