I'm horribly. I'm feverish, my nose is stuffy, all over my body aches, shaky, sneezy, and I have this obnoxious cough. Plus to put the icing on the cake, now I'm expieriencing horrible stomach pains. So I think I caught a virus. I relaxed today and drank some tea. I thought I was feeling better so I went to the mall with my friend. Big mistake. That's when I started feeling my worst. And it just went downhill from there. Problem is..my boyfriend's mother invited me to their annual polyanna. I've only been with him for 4 months and its a great oppurtunity for me to meet the family. But I don't want them to see me like this. However, I don't want his parents to be hurt if they are expecting me to come. I bailed out on my friend's Christmas party tonight because I felt horrible. If I feel just as horrible tomorrow, should I bail out on this one too?
2006-12-22 14:41:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Bail. They will understand--why chance getting them sick during the holidays too? Maybe you can meet them during New Years or plan a gathering for them at your place in mid-January.
I say this b/c if I were the mom/family I'd be a little put off at your inconsiderate behavior to show up all sick and not feeling well. Besides, you want to be "ON" when you meet them, and you won't be 100% tomorrow.
2006-12-22 14:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Phone his family and tell them you are terribly sick and you feel really terrible about not making it, but you don't want to come all sick like you are and maybe make them all sick too.
If this is your first time meeting them then you don't want to go all sick. See if they might want to have a luncheon at a restaurant one day during the week when you're up to it.
That Norwalk virus is going around and I think they would feel much worse if they all got sick after you showed up there. Not a good impression.
These things happen...I once had to stay home and miss Easter and spent the day all alone...but I couldn't even get out of bed I was that sick...life goes on. Get better soon kiddo! Rest and you might be better for Christmas day.
2006-12-22 14:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say WHY he doesn't want to go. Why do you think he doesn't "fit in"? You can't make him do that, btw! Maybe the way your family treats him makes him uneasy (just giving gifts isn't enough). Also, talk to your parents, if you know what they might be doing to cause him discomfort, and tell them to stop it. If they don't, then respect his wishes and go by yourself. You didn't give enough info to tell whether it's the boyfriend's problem or your family's or both!
2016-05-22 21:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay home tonite, gargle some hot salt water, take a super c and go to bed......relax all day tomorrow and if you are still sick then stay at home. After all, tis the season and the last thing you want to do is pass a cold along to his family, or maybe one of his grandparents, and have grandpa develop pneumonia. I'm sure his mom will understand and there will be other occassions to spend time with his family.
2006-12-22 15:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by Kati B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are those who are going to say to go ahead and attend this party. And while the intentions are honorable, the rationale of the whole idea kind of sucks, because why would you want to expose everyone there to whatever this bug is?
Nothing aggravates the dickens out of me more than for someone to attend a function where there are a lot of people and expose them to the germs they carry. If is nothing short of insensitive and in very poor taste to do so.
I may have the wrong slant on this, but I have been exposed to this type thing and become quite ill from the exposure.
There are ways around it, of course, like a simple explanation usually will suffice.
It's only fair to everyone involved in my book.
2006-12-22 15:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Gnome 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay home if you feel bad tomorrow. I know you wanna meet the family and stuff, but they should understand if you're sick like this. You should get some rest before leaving the house. Just call the boyfriend and his family before the party or whatever and let them know ahead of time.
Good luck and I hope you feel better soon!
2006-12-22 15:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call your boyfriends mother and tell her you are sick. I'm sure she will be able to tell that over the phone. Apologize, but let her know that you may have the flu and don't want to give it to her whole family. I'm sure she will appreciate you for not giving her entire house full of family the flu. Stay home, keep warm, and get well so you can enjoy Christmas day. Get well soon.
2006-12-22 14:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by Country girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you sound miserable. I spent a Christmas like that at my Uncle's. I had been puking all day & was passed out on the couch the whole time. I wasn't in any shape to socialize with the rest of the family.
If you are planning on going to your boyfriend's parent's, I think it would be best if you take a rain check. It would be uncomfortable for everyone with you exposing them to your germs. You wouldn't be yourself & I'm sure they would understand.
Hope you get to feeling better!
2006-12-22 14:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't Go...Many people get upset when you go to public functions when you are sick. Everyone will know that you are sick--and some of the guests, especially parents of small children--will not be happy by you being there and infecting other people.
Listen to your body. There will many other opportunities to meet his family. Let them know you have the flu, ad look forward to meeting them soon. They are adults, and every adult understands that the flu is real. They will not be "hurt", they will understand!
2006-12-22 14:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you're sick. Ask if they'd like you to come, and say that you're more than willing to put in an appearance but that you feel like crap and that you might spend the whole day just shivering/sneezing/coughing up phlegm. They'll probably tell you to stay in bed. That way nobody's feelings are hurt. If they tell you to come along anyway, do it, bearing in mind that the evil people who forced you to get up and be festive will probably all catch your germs. Yay!
2006-12-24 05:34:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋