Will my parents get sad if I die?

Question

I'm 14, we don't get along. I have a strong resentment of them. If I die, they will get rid of me.

Answer 1

Being a teenager is tough. I don't understand why teenagers think of death so much. You know life is WONDERFUL. You have to give yourself a chance to get past these difficult times of getting to know who you are. All parents and children have conflicts. Conflicts are always there in life, and you have to learn to deal with them.

My parents never understood a thing about me. I made my own life and I have three of the most wonderful children God has ever created, and I give to them the things I wanted for myself and more, and you know what? They reward me back with so much joy that I would never have come to know if I thought dark thoughts like you are about ending your life. Your parents are only your guides. They may not even be good ones. But your life is ultimately your own, and you don't need anyone's validation or approval on becoming the person you want to become.

You will discover many great people on your journey of life, so set goals and plans and work hard to get there honey...nothing falls into your lap...and good hard work builds character. You will find love and great friendships and will find that giving of yourself is the best thing of all because you get ten times that back in return.

Life is a precious gift, and no one should squander it. Yes your parents would miss you. I bet they have no idea what you are thinking or feeling. But as I said, maybe they are not the best of parents for whatever reasons...they were once lost and confused and maybe still are. Talk to a counsellor at school, or someone from a help line...they can put you in touch with other kids your age too and you can have a support group and talk and you'll see you are not alone.

Merry Christmas kiddo. It gets better, I promise.

Answer 2

If you invested 14 years into something, and then all of a sudden it was gone, would you be sad? Let's say you inherited one million dollars when you were 4 and you were't able to have it until you turned 18. The day you turn 18, you go to the bank and the people working there say that the account is completely empty.
Or if you had a pet for 14 years that you cared about that died.
It's hard to explain to someone doesn't have children.

You only have 4 years of your life left to live with them and then another 60 or so that are completely yours that you will be in total control of. So hang in there. Your problems are temporary, suicide is not.

Answer 3

Well, I'm aTeacher and I ask you these questions. Some of my students are going through these things, so answer these for me.

1. Are you in Foster Care?
2. Are your parents on drugs or in jail?
3. Do you go to bed hungry because your parents are poor?
4. Is your father molesting you?
5. Has your father abandoned you and your Mom?

If you answered "no" to all questions--then you have very little reason to "resent" your parents. You have food on the table, clothes on your back, a safe home life, and a roof over your head. You dont pay a single dime for any of these things--your parents do ands you should be thankful.

I'll bet that your parents have been out buying Christmas presents for you these past few weeks--and you're so focused on being resentful that you dont care. I'll bet you'll get an Ipod, cell phone and video games if you dont already have them.

Maybe you dont like your Parents because they set rules, and will not allow you to behave like some out-of-control "girl gone wild". Dear, you arent here to "like" your parents--you're in their home to be raised into responsible young woman who is healthy, educated, and college bound.

You'll thank them in 10 years.

Answer 4

Oh Sheyla you are so young and don't know enough about the world to make such a sad and terrible comment. I remember being a teenager and of all the terrible things I ever said to my parents the worst was " I hate you." One thing I can tell you is you should never go to bed upset with someone.........you never know what happens in life and its too short to resent loved ones.

Could you please update why you are upset with your parents?? If you are doing this for reasons other than attention and are truly contemplating suicide you should talk with someone. If you cannot talk to someone you know, call the suicide hotline. It's free and confidential. 1-800-784-2433

Answer 5

Hi! I'm wendy from malaysia. I think you might make your parent more upset because if that they don't like you, your mom won't borned you down. May be is just your attitude or something that make your parent doesn't like you. However, you must change your attitude or may be be rational with them, it is because your parent right? my advises to you is keep on living with your family and do something to make them proud of you ok?! So that your relationship with them will be more closer than before!

Answer 6

ok look family is one of those things that i will never understand like why i was put into a family where my father tried to kill me and beat me all the tome but you know life is what it is so i believe that yes your family would miss you even if you dont feel that way i even feel like my father would miss me and i could sit here and tell you that i wouldnt miss my father but you know that crazy thing i would not sure why but hey it is life so you just have to keep your mind positive and you will be ok you need to show them that you love them and be strong cause one day you will see that they love you

Answer 7

you need to take a real good look at your situation. why do you feel that they don't love or care about you, people show love and compassion in different ways, some good, some not so good. as a parent, i would be devastated if one of my children were to no long exist. don't be hasty, be smart, think then crawl, and yes they would be sad unless they have no feelings. what do you think?

Answer 8

hang on Hun you've only got 4 yrs to get out and enjoy your life, don't let your parents make you think of dying your so young and life gets better take one day at a time my prayers are with you

Answer 9

just because oyou and your parents dont get along doesnt mean your parents dont love you. dont you think if your parens didnt want you they wouldnt have had you? im sure your parents love you very much. you just have diffrent personalitys and out looks on life thats all

Answer 10

Your parents will be devastated and the deep loss will color the rest of their lives. Their mourning will never end. Remember, arguments are temporary and death is permanent.