Okay....I'm dying of cancer, I'm in highschool.
My mom wants to keep getting me tutored.
I don't get it-I am going to die!! okay?
Why should I learn anymore..................can't I live my life at the fullest now without having tutoring?!
I'm in stage 4 cancer, and I am just tooo tired to keep going.
What can I say to my mom to let her know that I am going to die....---just get it in her head---she refuses to believe it.
Thanks in advance.
2006-12-22 14:28:50 · 29 answers · asked by GROOVY LILY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only honest advice I can give to you is talk to her. Sit her down one day and talk to her. She most likely hasn't come to grips with what is going on however what parent wants to when something like that happens. I'm sure she is trying to do it to give herself hope that what is happening isn't a reality. I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you and please dont lose faith in your life. If you ever need anymore advice please feel free to e-mail me. I hope this helps,
2006-12-22 14:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just wants you to keep being tutored because a lot of times, people that are dying of cancer, don't die when the doctor's think they are going to. She probably just wants you to feel like nothing is wrong, like you are going about your normal everyday life. I am sure you have heard it a lot, but I am sorry that you had to go through the battle against cancer. God willing, you will win.
2006-12-22 22:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your Mom may be trying to get you to focus on other things besides your illness. I agree, why bother? All of that said, sometimes people look at situations and feel that they want the other person to be fulfilled and have a sense of accomplishment. Even if it's fleeting, maybe by you achieving something of re guard, perhaps it will give her a sense of closure . I can't believe your strength and courage; I'm SO sorry to hear about your situation. I wish you well........may God bless you and keep you.
2006-12-22 22:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by perrygreenwich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good bless you and your family in the dark days to come. mothers have a way of coping called if we deny it then it want happen. why give up and just do what ever. i had a brother who had heart problems we all knew he was going to die but he was never treated any different than the rest of us kids including going to school. my parents theory was he was not different in the fact that no human could tell them the day and time so why should he not have the chance to learn live laugh and love the people around him. please believe me it helps the ones left behind to think that we did what we could to make you have as long as we were allowed to have. you. please have the doctor talk with you and your mother and try to get her to understand no matter how hard it may be.
2006-12-22 22:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by c504play 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. My prayers go out to you and your family. You are just going to have to try and tell her again. Do you have hospice or a nurse that you feel close enough to that would be willing to speak to her for you. She probably just wants to keep things as normal as possible and is having a very hard time dealing with this, she may very well be in denial. I am so sorry! God bless You****
2006-12-22 22:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
may god bless you and your family! honey, none of us can let go of our loved ones easy. she loves you and wants each and every hour you are here to be some quality time for you and her. miracles do happen you know. that is what your mother believes and so do i. i wouldn't let go of my husband with cancer until he was gone, and then and now it hurts. he has been gone since 3days after christmas in 1988. do not give up so easily, i understand it is easier said than done. but trust in the lord and you pray together and things will be allright.
2006-12-22 23:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by granny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am sorry to hear that...I lost a cousin to a cancer related illness this year (after the cancer was gone, a sudden infection)...there is nothing I can do to help you with that and quite honestly nothing you can do that will make you mom accept that she is going to lose her daughter...
2006-12-22 22:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry and that must be very hard for you.. your mother is in denial about all of this because she's heart broken and the best way for you to let her know about the tutor would be for you to tell her that you would be happier having this time with her... hugs :) :) :)
2006-12-22 22:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom wants to try to make your life as normal as possible. But she should consider your wishes too. Tell her this is not how you want to spend the time you have left. It must be hard on her also to have a child going through this. God bless you.
2006-12-22 22:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by honeybear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her u want 2 live the rest of your life to the fullest and u want your family and friends to remember the happy memories you guys will have 2 gether before your time comes. that 1 memory she(your mom) wont want is to remember that all she made you do stuff yoou didnt want 2 do, and wont have any fun memories to love and remember.
and i wish you the best of luck
2006-12-22 22:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋