about a year ago I had a girl that liked me in school, and at first I told her to back off but she wouldn't leave me alone so i guess i was kinda curious because i never have done that with a girl, I didn't do anything other than kissed her but my boyfriend just found out about it and is going off, I know that it was wrong but I didn't tell him because I felt embarrased that I did it, whats really messed up about this situation is I caught him talking to another girl at work and they were talking on the computer behind my back now he says that the situation is the same because I kissed this girl. im so confused and don't know what to think I know it was wrong but I didn't like it and would never do it again now I feel that he is going to think it was ok for him to do what he did with his girl. what would you do?
2006-12-22 14:21:42 · 14 answers · asked by luv_meforever_06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are a lesbian he has the right to dump you.
2006-12-22 14:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you did something that you regretted and felt too embarrassed to tell him but that doesn't give him the right to hide things from you, it's not about getting even. If he wants to salvage the relationship now is the time to be open and honest and start fresh.
Personally I would wonder if he's using this as an easy way out of the relationship, why else would he have to lie or be secretive about the conversation unless he knows it is wrong. Don't get hung up on this guy, life is too short to settle, if you wait too long the good ones will be gone.
2006-12-22 14:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, besides wishing I had a cam to see the kiss, but time to be serious. Most guys would love to see their girl kiss another and then have a 3 way. But you merely kissed her and now regret it. The point is you are still with him, bottom line. A kiss is harmless he should be glad it didn't go further. Just apologize if you wish, but ask him how and why he's chatting to the other girl. Ask him why he's talking to her. I sincerely hope this helps and things work out well. Take care.
2006-12-25 02:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know exactly what ur talking about but i think ur not sharing everything and hiding or leaving things out,probally u have done other things to him,seriously y else would he be upset,he didnt mean what he did was alright,just making a point about him hiding things and giving him a hard time,but the whole time u were hiding something,sorry but my girlfriend did this exact same thing to me,its not the curious thing that bothers him,its the way u went about it,i found out in a store with other people i dont,about my girlfriend,thats embarassing,the other thing is that u probally just made it worse by letting the network of all kinds of people know about this now.Its sad that u have too take advice from this site,when all u had to do was talk to ur boyfriend, EMBEARASSING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-23 05:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend is wrong. There was nothing wrong with you kissing another girl once. Don't let your boyfriend put a guilt trip on you.
2006-12-22 14:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him! try to explain to him that you were just curious. I know he probably will blow it off, but if he loves you he will listen and try to understand.
We are all naturally curious, that's human nature, but we aren't always so understanding about it.
I wish you the best, and hope that everything works out!
2006-12-22 14:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Misty Lee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain to him you didn't see it as a big deal, or perhaps you did but didn't think of the consequeces. apoligize and say sorry. that's about all you can do
2006-12-22 14:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive and forget. After all how would you feel if he had kissed another guy?
2006-12-22 14:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you don't owe him anything anymore and told him if he ever cheat on you, you'll kick his ***.
2006-12-22 14:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Booooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might think you are a lesbian,but you were curious about a lesbian sensation.
2006-12-22 14:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by david n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋