some advice.....?

Question

i lasted 2 yrs with my ex bf... and 2 yrs later (now) we met again.... now my ex bf has a gf, but he calls me when he is drunk and tries to see me even if its just for a few minutes, lets say to pick me up and drop me somewhere.. but most of the time, when we have a lot of time to spend together he tries to kiss me or something, i cant deny i still love him but i dont wanna get hurt, i told him so and he told me he just likes me and that we just cant be together cuz we are "too diferrent" however today he tried more than just a kiss and i just coudnt help remembering things and had so many crap running through my head... so i started to cry and he acted indifferent abt it.... i dont know if he is trying to hide his own feelings, or what the heck he is trying to do with me...what does this mean? could you tell me how should i act, what should i do? ive been fighting to get over him for over a year now and it just doesnt work..i know he is a jerk, it makes me sad he wasnt like that befor

Answer 1

He is just trying to use you. Don't let him. You think you're in pain now? If you give in to this creep and he dumps you afterwards, LIKE HE WILL, you'll have no one to blame but yourself. Don't go there.

Answer 2

This is what you have said,
1. He is your X boyfriend who now has a girlfriend
2. He calls you "when he is drunk"
3. He tries to kiss YOU.
4. When you are sad he ignores your feelings.
5. You don't understand his feelings or what he is trying to do.
6. You've been trying to get over him for over a year.
7. You know he's a jerk

This guy isn't exactly the "model" of trust if you note the things you've said. It may be wise to think in terms of the benefits of entangling your feelings further with a guy who only calls or wants to kiss you when he is drunk.
He 's also not exactly to bright as a communicator either so you may consider reading his behavior rather than wasting to many kisses on him.

My guess here is that you have some issues of loneliness. Though the x is a jerk, you probably feel you are better off with a jerk than being alone.

Mostly you must become convinced of the Truth, that you are unique and have an important purpose to fulfill on this planet. You will not do this if you're busy being disrespected by this untrustworthy parasite who is hungry devouring multiple girls.

Give him time to gain some value through his own sense of self. He might cycle through a LOT of girls before he find himself. In the meantime, you learn all that you can about how you operate and it will point you in an amazing direction.

Ask your teachers or your parents what your greatest abilities are and then develop them! You do not have time to waste with one who obviously disrespects you. There are far better ways to deal with loneliness.

You are loved by God....

Answer 3

This is tough, but you have to not make yourself available to him. Don't answer when he calls. This may make him call you more, desire you more and eventually break up with his current gf because he realizes you are what he wants. Or, it may help you get over him. Either way, if anything is going to work between you, he needs to do the the work to win you back and prove he's there to stay. If he's not capable of fighting for you, you'll always question the relationship if you end up getting him after all this fighting to win. Also he's cheating on his committment right now and that makes him weak... is that really a man you want to be with? I would want to be with the man that wants you when it's difficult and when he's sober because life is tougher later on and you deserve someone who's not indifferent when you are upset.

Answer 4

well i think that this guy is trying to get some from you. he liked the physical part of your relationship, and even though he has a girlfriend he still tries to move in on you. you said it yourself, he is a jerk. you told him you dont want to get hurt, and even though he told you you guys couldn't be together, he still trying to get physical with you. he doesnt care about your feelings, because if he did he would just back off, not wanting to hurt you. specially if he knows how you feel. i say you drop this loser and move on. he has nothing good to offer you. things might have been good in the past, but now it's different. remember there are better guys out there and with them, better opportunities at more good relationships. hope i helped.

Answer 5

It seems to me that he still cares for you deep down inside. And you also can't over him. So next time you see him, sit on his lap, and give him a great big kiss on the mouth. And talk about getting back together. Everyone deserves a second chance. If he says no, ask him what his intentions toward you anyway. Why he acts the way he does around you. He might be worth saving!

Answer 6

Imagine for a moment that you had to describe your Dad to someone.... How would you describe him? What about your best friends Dad?... Let me tell you about my Dad, When he was living with his New Wife, He would come over Drink and pick my Mom up on the corner and then when he was done with her he would drop her off on the other corner...Yup my dad ...My Mom still loves my Dad but he doesnt want to be with her he just wants her to make him Horny so he can go back home to his new wife and Be with her instead. My mom cries sometimes but he cant wait to leave when she starts that. Do you think my Dad is someone to be proud of? What would you tell your Mom to do? Your Best Friend. I am going to tell you straight out and I hope that you are not to young to hear it.. He has had Sex and he will do and say anything to get it. He doesnt care about anything else and He didnt use to be that way but HE IS NOW. You dont want to get hurt but you already have over and over and over agian. You 2 are very different He is right you are worth something and He doesnt see that. He is NOT hiding anything. He doesnt feel anything for you except wanting to have sex. If it is not with you it will be with anyone else. Show him that you are worth more than that and 1st of all YOU DONT SHARE with other girls and 2nd of all YOU DONT LIKE THE Taste of BEER in another persons MOUTH! EWWW! and if a Man is going to be kissing you He will PICK you UP wherever and whenever you say to Be Proud, Hold your head up and Realize baby there are plenty of guys out there that would walk across water just to wipe your tears away. It will take time to get over him but you will. Stop all communication with this Jack *** and tell him that he had his chance and that he is right you are too different to be together wish him luck with the next girl he tries to screw over.. Even if you dont feel like it, You DESERVE To be treated better than a whore or a Piece of meat or a dog, YOU ARE BETTER THAN THIS GIRL and life will be wonderful when you realize that you are. It will hurt for a while and you will remember and it will make you cry but how much have you cried lately? Time will make it better and if you keep yourself busy with other things it will be easier you can either Miss him alone in your room or Miss him while you are off with your friends and out doing stuff , either way it will hurt but Time will heal you girl and you will meet someone worthy of your love.

Answer 7

It sounds like he is not someone that is pleasant to be around. Feelings come and go. I would try to avoid all contact with this person and move on. The only end I see to your situation continuing with him is a lot more pain. Allow yourself to only consider dating a guy who will treat you right and respect you. Good luck.

Answer 8

Seems to me that he only wants a lay and you musta been a good one since he keeps coming at ya. Hes a player once a cheater always a cheater. Find someone w/o a gf

Answer 9

Ask a guy you feel comfortable with out for dinner. If things go well, ask for more. when ex-bf sees this relationship , he will back off

Answer 10

well girl i can only tell you that you must act now! like you may love him but it's like you must tell him that he have a gf and you must don't try to cheat on her with you because it's like both of you had a time to be together and it got ruined by somethin and it's like if he wants to get your heart again you must tell him that is his gf or you! so good luck!!!