We have been traditionally invited over to a friend's place for dessert on Christmas eve. This year too we shall be enjoying their hospitality and exchanging gifts on this occasion.
This Saturday my 5 year old daughter's friend and her family are coming over for dinner at our place. I would like to ask my daughter's 6 six year old friend to stay overnight with us so that the girls can have fun.
However, if she stays over, we would have to take her along with us to our friend's house on Christmas eve. I do not have a problem with that but my husband feels that's not appropriate as the host might feel obligated to give a gift to my daughter's friend as well.
What is everyone's vote?
2006-12-22 14:10:57 · 18 answers · asked by neeshera 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
if there is already a gift exchange planned, this isn't appropriate because she wasn't considered in it. you can still have the sleepover but don't leave the new addition's gift up to the host. if you choose this route, be sure to pick an extra gift so she gets one as well. this way, she won't feel left out and it won't cause any extra obligation for the host.
2006-12-22 14:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by morequestions 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is right. Not only would the host now feel obligated to give her a gift, but so would any other guests. Also, this girls parents would now need to cough up some gifts to give to the host and the other guests. There are many other nights she can stay over when there will be no imposition on anyone. Anyway, I find it a bit strange that someone would allow their daughter to spend Christmas Eve at someone else's house. I would think the parents would want her there Christmas morning so that she can open up her presents. Is it perhaps that your daughters friend is not Christian or does not practice the faith? (I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just genuinely curious.)
2006-12-22 23:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am all for tradition. However, the little girls parents would perhaps may want to be consulted about the trip to your other friends. If its fine by the parents, call the Christmas eve host and explain the situation and that you would like to bring the little friend along and that you would also supply a gift for her to open.It would be better to ask prior to setting the sleep over up and getting the girls all excited. Best to cover all bases. What thoughtful parents you are to want to make Christmas all the more special for both girls.
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-22 22:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by thebe_gl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is intensely inappropriate to bring along an uninvited guest to someone else's house. The host would most likely feel obligated to give the other child a gift, which is an unnecessary imposition on his hospitality. I'd say wait until after Christmas to have your daughter's friend over for a sleepover.
2006-12-22 22:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by ckmclements 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well looking at it from another angle, would the little girls family not want her there Christmas morning to open her presents.. Also I have to agree with your husband, it may make the friends feel obligated, and if they don't the little girl may feel out of place while everyone else is opening presents. I say do it another night there are tons more days for Christmas vacation. Merry Christmas to you.
2006-12-22 22:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Issym 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it would probably be a better idea to invite your daughter's friend over some other time. You wouldn't want to impose on your friend's hospitality by bringing an additional child.
Perhaps your daughter's friend could spend the night sometime next week? That would probably seem extra special to both of them since it would be a week night...different and fun.
2006-12-22 22:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by gypzndog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its right. Since the little girl and the family are strangers it might be ackward, and they might only want your company. Just think of how you would feel if your friend was coming over and also wanted to bring along a friend. Merry Christmas
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2006-12-23 00:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by blahblahblahblahblah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with you husband on this one cause how would you feel if i give husband a gift and not you. when you yong you would feel very sad to and the host would have too make sure his guest stay happy. he does not want to be a bad host. so always think of the other person befor you act on what you think it right.
2006-12-22 22:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by sruhad1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them if it's OK...and take a small gift along so the 6 year old won't be left out when others are opening gifts.
2006-12-22 22:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is inappropriate to invite your daughter's friend along with you to your friends house...unless you call them and ask if it is okay. Your friends are planning on you and yours to show up, it would put them in a bind if more than expected showed up. It would make them bad hosts to not have enough for all. Call first and ask if it's okay, also ask if it would be better for you to break tradition this once and reschedule...or better, invite them over for something.
2006-12-22 22:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Sartoris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋