Does my daughter have an imaginary friend or she seeing a spirit? What should I do? Do you believe in ghosts

Question

my oldest child is almost 4 and last week she mentioned she had a friend who had a green shirt and hat, purple pants, and brown shoes. But then she said that he was dead. Lately she's been obsessed with death so what she said didn't take me by surprise. and to tell you the truth, I thought she was talking about the host of Blues Clues. So I just listened. Well, I guess on a seperate occasion she told my husband the same thing. Well, tonight, she mentioned her "friend" again, however, this time, it seemed more real. She said taht he was dead becasue someone put a gun in his mouth. this shocked me because I have NO idea where else she would have gotten that image. Also, we have never taught her any religion and so it shocked me that she said that he was up in the sky now and she can't go with him b/c she's not dead like him. I am thouroughly freaked out & don't know if she is dreaming or if it is a spirit. I'm a skeptic but does NE1 have same experience? Suggestions? Help!

Answer 1

I suggest that you open a lot of channels of communication with her regarding death. You can play "funeral" with dolls. Ask her to use dolls to tell you the story of her friend's life and death and what life is like up in the sky. Get her drawing/painting materials and draw/paint with her, gradually directing her attention to her friend. Ask her her opinions and thoughts about death and her friend's fashion sense. Does she like his hair? What does it look like.

Keep everything low key and casual. She is probably just learning to deal with death.

You might take a "field trip" to a funeral home and the grave of a departed friend or family member. If you own cemetary plots, show her the empty plots where you'll be buried.

etc., etc.

Answer 2

Children are known to see spirits. My sister passed away when I was little and we have a video of my youngest sister playing playdough with my dead sister. Children are open to these things because no one has told them it's not real, people usually just play along. But as we grow up we loose this ability because we are told it's fake and our "third eye" closes. Very few keep this ability into adulthood. Your daughter will most likely grow out of seeing this spirit girl if you keep saying it's an imaginary friend and that she's not actually there. Your child will begin to realize you are right and she'll stop seeing the ghost girl. As for the ghost girl, she's most likely peaceful. There's no proof she skinned the dog. I doubt she has that much energy available anyway. Even if she is angry, the only thing I've ever known to have that much power is a demon. Based on the information, it sounds like you have a ghost and the dog got into a bad accident with something or someone else killed it, either way it's not relevant to your daughter's "imaginary" friend. To answer your question, yes it is most likely a spirit and no your daughter will not be hurt. If you daughter has made friends with the spirit, the spirit has probably taken a liking to her and will probably watch over her. Don't worry too much.

Answer 3

Whoa! A weird situation u have here. Ask ur daughter to accompany u to the place, he saw the spirit. The spirit would surely not be there. Advise ur daughter not to go to that room. Ask ur neighbours about the history of the house u r living.

If they mention anything about a boy being killled with a gun, it is adviced that u leave ur house at the earnest. Sometimes ur daughter might be imagining things. If there r no spirits, consult her with a doctor. All the best!!!

Answer 4

Spirits are definitly real. It sounds like she may have one. I wouldnt be afraid. Children are more open to seeing them because they are not skeptic about anything. I would just sit down and talk to her about it. Ask what kind a person is her friend, if he is nice, and etc. I am 34 and have had experiences with the spirit world ever since I was young.

Answer 5

Your daughter may have the gift of sight and is seeing and talking with a spirit. When I was a small child I to would see and hear things, I also had a friend that only I could see. My mother would tell me to pray for the ones I would see or hear, that was what they needed, so I did and they would go. Pray with her to help them understand they need to go into the light, to let go of this world and embrace the next.

Answer 6

I think kids are more in tune to ghosts because they have never been taught to be skeptics. However, I don't think that your daughter is having real conversations with dead people. Kids pick stuff up all around them they are always listening. Is there someone who watches graphic movies when your daughter is around? Who babysits her? Do a little investigating and when and if you figure out who told her that crap, remove her from their care unless you are there to directly supervise.

Answer 7

Children are quite often visited by ghosts or spirits of those that cant quite move on===it's because they are so innocent and believing and open-minded.
While I wouldnt like my child to be subjected to the vision of someone putting a gun in their mouth, I certainly would try to help your daughters friend "move on towards the light"....Believe, and try to speak to this person--ask your daughter to find out what his name is---and the next time she sees him, to let you know. Then you need to address this person by name, and tell him TO GO, GO TO THE LIGHT, YOUR WORK HERE ON EARTH IS DONE AND YOU CAN REST IN PEACE....

Good luck.

Answer 8

Children are the most purest and honest people in the world. However I would take her to a pyschiatrist because the things she is telling you and your husband is a little mature for her. Although I don't believe in ghost I have heard of small children being able to see spirits and angels.

Answer 9

My four year old niece started telling me one day that she had ghost friends at her house, and they talked to her and told her to do things sometimes, i asked her if the things they asked her to do where bad things and she said no, that they just wanted to play. whatever it was, imagination running wild or whatever. its best not to ignore it, and if she tells you he is dead then believe her! weather spirits are real or not your daughter clearly believes they are. make sure she knows not to hurt herself, even if her friend tells her too, and that she doesn't have to do what her "friends" say. most likely she will grow out of this, when my niece started going to pre-school and getting more real friends she stopped talking about her ghost friends. but sense i do believe in ghosts keep your eye on the situation. if she starts getting unexplained wounds or marks, become concerned and ask her how they happened. its hard to tell fact from fiction, more so for a kid, the point is SHE believes he is a ghost weather you do or not.

Answer 10

I can personally that an imagination can go wild sometimes. I'm 13 and still having some trouble figuring out if what I see is fact or fiction. But, the best thing you can do is listen to her. My parents don't and it gets worse. If it is imaginary, he will go away. She's fine, but, if things start flying around and she sais that he's hurting her, you might have a problome.=) Good luck. I would say though, you probobly have nothing to worry about.