I have guys that fill my needs, when needed but if I start to care, I run like ****. How do I know if a man is genuine, or if he is a conartist?
2006-12-22 13:39:55 · 14 answers · asked by happyjoye 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I so know how you feel...just wait for that one guy who touches you like no one else has...mind, body and soul. It may take awhile but it will be worth the wait_
2006-12-22 13:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, please don't mind, how can others be sure that you are not a conartist or genuine? trust traffic flows both directions. if you don't trust someone, you won't get the trust you are looking for. you being divorced twice raises many concerns.
1. either you are too much afraid of something that you run like helll whenever confronted with something called "REALITY".
2. or you might be always misunderstood by the other person. you may have different signals or points in your life where you feel happy or mad.
there is some problem in you that is making you run away from others like that. try to find out that problem and find the solution. otherwise, you will keep on running away for the rest of your life.
2006-12-23 13:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Amir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! your asking a question all people want an answer to. The best thing I can tell you is to give it time and to trust yourself, it sounds like you've been hurt before so it may be in your best interest to talk to a friend or two about whats going on in your relationships to keep a good perspective on them as sometimes once bitten twice shy. You don't have to do much, just make sure that the person is consistent and honest with you, although that can take a while.
Good Luck
2006-12-22 21:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bill O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have been hurt before you should know the signs and the red flags when you meet new guys.
Use those sign to guide you and dump them if you see thingsdo not seem or feel right but try to be more trusting and give them a chance if things feel right and no red flags to worry about.
That is the only way you are ever going to find out otherwise you will forever be in a guessing game, getting nowhere.
2006-12-22 21:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mark n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. I am currently going through the exact same thing the only thing I can say is DON'T if you're not ready to open up then it just means that you simply aren't. I think your heart will let you know but, since you have been through 2 marriages I'd say follow your head before your heart.
2006-12-22 22:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by momof3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After two marriages and divorces, I would think that you would know something by now. Like how to figure this out yourself.
2006-12-22 21:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things the head tells you and others the heart. Use your best judgment. If you know yourself well enough you will find the answers.
2006-12-22 21:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never do...you try to find out about him by the friends and neighbors he has been around for awhile, they know him the best...but you can never be 100%
2006-12-22 21:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sleeping with a coworker ain't gonna solve your emotional needs.. stop having meaningless sex and focus on develop true emotional relationships.. don't have sex until you know for sure it is love.. that's the only way to know for sure, if he's willing to wait.
if you are horny, masturbate.. it feels good. regain some self respect and self dignity, and your life is sure to improve..
2006-12-22 21:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can write you a poem he is real! If he can't answer a simple question dump him.
2006-12-22 21:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by George G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋