How do you get a women back 4 weeks after you made the biggest mistake of your life and dumped her?

Question

We had been together for a year before the break up. I was arrogant and unwilling to compromise. I thought I was the best BF ever and any girl would be lucky to be with me. My best friends became single and it made me want to be single too. I thought the grass was going to be greener. We had a big fight and I ended it. I spent the next four weeks trying to date but I'd ended up lost in my head thinking of her and what we had. I realized how many mistakes I made and I began to hate myself. I took her for granted. Now I'm lost trying to get her back. She said she wants to stay single for a while. She doesn't trust that I won’t hurt her again. Every day with out her feels like my last day on earth. Do I deserve her? What can I do? How can I get her back?

Answer 1

Why did you dump her? Tell me that and I'll tell you if you made a mistake. It usually isn't a mistake. I would stay away if I were you, even if it was a mistake -- it usually doesn't work if you get back together. You will have lost her respect and you'll look like a dog begging for her to let you back into her life. The same problems that you broke up over will likely plague you also. Proceed at your own risk. Sometimes it's worth it, but not usually. Good luck!

OK, yeah . . . you did make a mistake. I wish I could give you a line that would fix this for you, but I'm afraid there is no such thing. You can keep trying, but I think you'd be better off dating other women. Average men only have about a 10% success rate, so I can imagine how it might seem difficult to date if you're inexperienced. Just don't give up because of a few rejections.

And don't BEG her to get back with you, that's the worst thing you can do. Some women will get back with you just to satisfy their egos or to get revenge, and that will waste your time and make you feel worse. Next time, remember not to mess things up when the woman likes you. If she will really try hard to get back with you and show that she likes you, then I guess it would be OK to give her a chance. Just don't crawl to her. Go to her and look her in the eye, and tell her you were wrong and you made a mistake. If she doesn't want to take you back then, she isn't worth it. Good luck!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Well they say you always think the grass is greener on the other side til you go and taste it :) Sorry I have been there but our break up was 14 months.
IF you show her in words and actions that you have made the biggest mistake and MEAN it and it comes from your heart, If she loves you, then there is nothing in life you both can work out together. She has to be willing to listen to you and you have to be willing to be honest with her.... After all she deserves to know how you truly feel and why you did what you did. YOU better be honest with yourself and her.
What do you have to loose? Nothing so go for it.
Trust me money can't and will not buy happiness so don't waste your time on expensive items and gifts.
SPEAK FROM THE HEART
Best of luck to you both

Answer 4

Stop thinking the grass is always greener on the other side, in this case in a relationship. You obviously broke up with her for a reason. Just because you aren't getting any *** doesn't mean you made the worst mistake of your life. Move on, get your sorry *** together and find a better girl. If had any other options, you wouldn't be sitting around being so lame.

Answer 5

The question is not how do you get her back but can you get her back. Sometimes such blunders are non-recoverable so to speak. Sometimes you can get someone back but it usually takes time and if you are patient you may succeed but there are no guarantees. It depends on what you did or said that caused you to lose her in the first place. I think one thing you should is to apologize for being so foolish and ask her forgiveness. Then you should tell her how much she means to you and be honest about how you feel about her and don't let her guess but tell her outright. Show her your sincerity. Be sincere and let her know by your voice how much you have missed her and hoe you realize the emptiness you are feeling in your heart and how much it hurts to be without her. Tell her how much you adore and cherish her. Don't put on a show but be sincere and honest.

Answer 6

don't try to get her back. u most likely really hurt her. if u got back together, then things wouldn't just go back to being the same. im a girl, and it is NOT fun getting dumped. this might sound harsh, but it would be better if u didn't get back with her. it might be best to just be friends for a while, don't presure her in to lovin u and wanting u back. this doesn't really answer ur q, but move on. try and be friends with her.

Answer 7

if you made mistakes and want to make things right talk to her personally by asking forgiveness.if you really love her do it seriously.It's not too late for a reconcilliation.
Next time before you dumped your girlfriend think 100 times.you hurt her feelings so much.i hope there is a happy ending to both of you.God bless!

Answer 8

Go to her now and tell her how you feel, be honest with her and make sure that she knows how sorry you are, the longer you Waite the harder it will be, she may not accept your apologie but you owe it to your self and her to try

Answer 9

you beg,and ask her to marry you and ask to also 4 give you and how much you miss her,if she still loves you balieve me it will work ,if not just move on and dont make the same mistake over again next time!!!

Answer 10

It is possible you lost something good. Sorry, but live and learn.