He's in the military and we are in 2 different states. I've asked him over and over again but, still he hasn't sent me anything. My wedding band was costly and I really didn't have the money but, figured since it was on sale at the time I'd buy it. How do I tell him it's his responsibility to buy my wedding band and I'm supposed to buy his without sounding *itchy and like a gold digger? I don't want to make him feel like I'm badgering him about it either, but, I'm kinda tight with cash right now trying to pay for a wedding and it seems like he's not helping contribute to the finances for it.
2006-12-22 12:57:40 · 10 answers · asked by Armychick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
how do you know if he's bought it already and wanted to surpise you. dam
2006-12-22 13:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by NEVAM8DHONORLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 21:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of me is saying its $4--get over it. but I'm sure that was a typing error. You made a mistake. Return them. You shouldn't have bought a ring. You knew it was not your responsibility. You list in seperate states so you don't know what he was looking at or doing. And you bought a ring you really couldn't afford.
Now you do what you would do any other time you buy something you can't afford--you return it. This was your call and your mistake. Not your fiances. Maybe he hasn't bought it b/c he can't afford it either.
Now if he isn't contributing to the finances at all then I agree with the other people on here and perhaps he is hinting at something. You are rushing into something neither of you are ready for yet. Perhaps you should spend some time working on your relationship and your communication difficulties instead of being so eager for a wedding.
2006-12-26 05:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I feel that if you chose to buy it even though he was supposed to give you the money, it was your choice and ultimately your responsibility. If you've asked him over and over again, and he still hasn't sent the money, then obviously something is wrong. It does sound a bit like you may be driving him nuts with the wedding plans, but at the same time he should have sent the money he promised. I think there may be deeper issues here. My best advice would be to return the wedding bands that you'd purchased and perhaps postpone wedding plans until you can figure out what's going on with him.
2006-12-26 05:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You chose to buy it, YOU are ultimately responsible. You CAN tell him (NICELY) that it was a good deal so you bought it as a favor to him. If he wants the band he can send you the money, or you'll just return it and he can buy it when he's ready. (Unless you love the band so much, you're willing to eat the costs).
If you can't return it, be prepared to take the hit. He has a right to be annoyed you bought it without him (unless that is what you agreed to). But do you really want to start the marriage off on this foot?
And while you're at it ...work on your communication with him. You two need to be clear on things BEFORE they happen, not after the fact.
Shades of things to come.....
2006-12-22 14:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in such a big hurry? Personally, it sounds as though you're being pushy. You went out bought your own ring, has he even seen it? Now, you want to get his purchased too.....maybe he wants to pick his own. It sounds to me that you are really in a hurry to get things done, including marriage. Try not talking about the wedding and ring next time you speak to him. It may be the only thing you are talking about anymore and it's pushing him away. Slow down. Sometimes the big rush can cause the big CRUSH!
2006-12-22 13:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by Chub-a-lubby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you just ask him innocently honey when are we going to go purchase the rings, or when are you going to pick up the rings. that really isn't the bride's job. you have enough to take care of. badgering is not what you would be doing. you have to be honest because you are going to marry him and that is where it starts from little things like this and you can trust him, cause you did say YES. i'm sure he loves you and you really need to tell him that this problem is burding you. go for it you will do good
2006-12-22 13:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By telling him openly..you can do it through the phone. You have to really compromise and tak about it over. If this thing only can make you feel sad and disturbed, how about after you marry him? Marriage is supposed to be for life.
Think about whether you can really spend the rest of your life with him and make ur decision if he really worth your love..
All the best
2006-12-22 13:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in love with him or are you in love with getting married? If he's acting like this now how will he act in 5-10 years? You guy need to talk about expectations.
2006-12-22 13:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by ...huh... 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
look hes over there dodging bullets, sit down and shut up.
go get a J-O-B for heavens sake.
2006-12-22 14:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋