He still treats me like im nothing just his baby's momma. He spends his time on the phone and talks to his so called homie that is a chick. I want to know what i should do leave and forget about him and move on with my life. Or just stay where im at and try to overcome it.
2006-12-22 12:54:15 · 25 answers · asked by bbygrl_23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, honey. Move on while you still have a life ahead of you. You'll never know what you're missing by staying with someone who treats you like crap. Life is too short. You owe it to you and your child.
You teach people how to treat you. Take charge now. A relationship means compromise, doesn't sound like you get any of that.
2006-12-22 12:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You hate it that he treats you like you are nothing. I have been in your situation, so, I do feel for you. But I left. I have never been happier. But let's think this through this together:
Situation: Your boyfriend treats you like you are nothing. This makes you feel unloved and uncared for, not like the family you want to be.
Resolution 1: If you stay with him, maybe one day he will express love toward you or maybe you will stop caring so much and become happy some other way. NOT MY RECOMMENDATION
Resolution 2: If you leave him, you can accept that he just cannot treat you right. If you leave him, you can forgive him for his inability to do so. And if he wants you back, you can ask him to go to counseling with you or the deal is off. I RECOMMEND THIS
This is is a problem that requires a professional whom you are both comfortable with. Just because you forgive him doesn't mean you forgive him on his terms. If he wants to get back together, make sure the same situation doesn't repeat itself.
God tells us to love one another - just listen to the Man, alright? :)
With Love do I write this response.
Addendum: Some people who have responded seem to think your partner has potential for abuse. I did not interpret anything of the kind from what you wrote. There is difference between a controlling and inconsiderate partner and an abusive one.However, if this is true, then forget whatever I have said in terms of reconciliation. You can forgive him for what he has done, but never take back the one who abuses. The risk is too high, and you have a child.
2006-12-22 13:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by Asian Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He treats you like your "nothing just his baby's momma." That says a lot. In other words, you were okay to have sex with and probably accidentally father a child with, but he's been there and done that. It's time for him to move on.
Honey, I'm going to give you some honest advice (which you probably won't take). Go get the ball started towards getting child support. Go down to social services and ask for help in filing and in any additional aid that you might need. Move back in with your parents and ask them to help. (You are going to need all the help you can get and your "boyfriend" is getting ready to bolt.) Get on birth control NOW and stay on it. DON'T GET PREGNANT AGAIN until you are married. Being a single mother is hard---VERY hard. Don't make it any more difficult that you already have. Ask for help and pursure all the avenues open to you and GET that child support. It's your obligation to make sure that your baby gets supported by his/her biological dad, if when he decides that he has more "important" things to do. You owe it to your baby to grow up, now and become an adult. I know you can do it. Good luck, dear.
2006-12-22 13:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WTF?! I can't believe you're even
asking this! Do you need to be hit
upside the head with his phone
before you actually leave him!
You should have been gone long
ago.
1. Treats you like nothing.
2. Doesn't want you to see your family.
3. Is on the phone all the time.
4. WITH A CHICK.
You know what comes next. I'll tell you.
5. Verbal abuse
6. Physical abuse
NEED TO KNOW ANYMORE.
If you've got somewhere else to go,
hopefully family, friggin GO.
I know it seems harsh and hard but
with some help you can do it on your
own. You'll be proud of yourself.
I'm a man and I'm telling this. GO.
2006-12-22 13:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by Semaj S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is the right man for you if you guys are incompactible. With your case i think you should sit with him talk to him about what you don't like about him and should change. If you do this and he does not change towards you, then forget him and move on with your life because love is all about caring, understanding, lovely, having time for eachother, and respecting eachother's view.
If he does not do all these then i think you should forget about him and look for the one who will do the words mentioned above.
Love is good when you meet the right person
2006-12-22 13:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by CHIEF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely go and see your family. You will feel rejuvenated, taken care of and most definitely your family will pay attention to you. Your boyfriend does not appreciate you. If this "homie" of his thinks she can talk to your man all night you need to let her know to stay away and let your man know that this arrangement does not fly with you.
Next time she calls I would ask her what her motives are and let her know that she needs to step back. Good luck!
2006-12-22 13:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by Abbey L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You belong with your family. Four hours is not far at all compared the regret you will have by not going. He doesn't care about you or he would be taking you to your family's holiday function and you wouldn't be posing this question. Who knows what the Holiday at your family could bring you {a new fun friend}?
2006-12-22 12:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by BudLt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*** move move MOVE! i'm not even sure why you'd ask this question...thinking u already knew the answer. he's not nice to u...he doesn't treat u very well, but just b/c he tells u not to go u think you're spose to stay and just try to overcome it? he's not going to change. you're better off on your own. u don't deserve to have to put up w/ that...no one does. go back to your family. maybe they can give u the love and support that he doesn't.
2006-12-22 12:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by meme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life..you've got a child to think about, and while he should definitely be held responsible for his part in creating it, there's no reason you should stick with the guy and be unhappy hoping for change that is unlikely to happen.
2006-12-22 12:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take the baby and leave him as it will only get worse. U are your own person/boss of yourself not anyone else, if ya let one rule ya, u will never enjoy life plus that baby will grow up thinking the same...break the cycle.
2006-12-22 13:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by any1on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋