I want to say I love you, I've wanted to to say it on two occasions. We're coming up on 2 months and I don't want to say it too soon and have my heart crushed if he doesn't say it back or he says it is too soon. When is it right to say the i love you? Help! Ive had my heart broken once when I loved (well thought it was love), and i'm scared to put it back out there. That's why i haven't said it yet... please help.
2006-12-22 12:44:03 · 19 answers · asked by redneckshorty84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Two months isn't very long...if you weren't well acquainted prior to that, then you've barely had time to get to know one another...give it more time...nothing wrong with waiting and letting him say it first either...but I think 2 months is too soon for people who are newly together...
2006-12-22 12:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until you feel that he will say it back. I made the mistake of saying it too soon--after three months--and he said he really cared a lot about me, but wasn't ready to say it back. I felt hurt and silly. Well, it's been almost a year and he still hasn't said it. He says he has a hard time because of past hurts and would prefer to show his feelings than to verbalize them.
So, my point is, there is a risk. Maybe a good idea would be to hint around about it. Say things with the word "love" like "I love your hair" or "I love spending time with you" and see his reaction. Or maybe get him a nice romantic card and sign, Love, your name, on it. That is a little less scary than saying it.
Good Luck!
2006-12-22 20:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you'll really know is to do it; every relationship is different.Having said that normally guys will either freak out or are really happy when you say you love them. You just need to figure out which one will happen with this person. The best way to do this is to sit him down somewhere he can't run away and tell him your think he's really cool and you think you might be getting serious about him and see what he has to say, that way if he has a problem and acts to weird or says that hes not that into you then you know not to commit yourself by actually telling him you Love him. It might seem like a hard thing to do but it would be worse to tell him you loved him instead of you could be getting serious about him if he wasn't going to be receptive to you.
2006-12-22 21:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bill O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should say it yet. It is too early to really know if it is true love. Trust me. You need to take your time and get to know him real well. I just answered a lady who is in a bad marriage because her husband lied to her prior to the marriage and she is now finding out after the marriage and she is hurt by his actions. Sometimes people change when someone tells them they love them or talks of marriage or gets married to them. You need to see this guy under many different situations and circumstances. Two months is only 8 weeks and no one can relly know anyone else in such a short length of time. Give it at least 8 months to a year before you even think of making any committment. If you go ahead and tell him you love him you may very well end up regretting it for the rest of your life.
2006-12-22 20:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said "I love you" to my boyfriend after 3 months, and he didn't say it back. I was kind of hurt at first, but I didn't regret saying it because I really did love him and wanted to let him know. He said it back about three months later, and we've been together for a year and half now.
The point is, if you're so worried about how he'll react, you might not be in love yet.
2006-12-22 23:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say it first. the beauty of this sentence "I love you " is when a guy say it to a girl and wait for her to say it back not the other way around.
I'll tell a personal story about my sister; she felt for a guy and they were casual friend in collage after a year he got much close to her as a friend, he knew that she feels for him and he liked her too but so she told him that she has feelings for him and he seemed happy with it at that time and told her the same but after a while he began to act weard, careless because he knows no matter what she likes him, till it became too much and she left him, now he's sorry and want back but no use it is over.
,y point that he got too proud of him self, he liked the way that she loves him not her. so it means that he likes his reflection in her eyes not her.
i hope i did you any good, just don't say it first. every girl deserve to be treated like a princess so wait till your prince tell you the magic word
Good Luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-22 21:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young at Heart...... I couldn't have said it any better...... 2 months??? What's the rush?? See how this plays out for a while... and you will know without saying it. The word 'love' triggers so many emotions and fears all at once. Best to save it for later.
2006-12-22 20:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing with those three words are that they are very easy to say, but very hard to explain, and impossible to take back. I would be very cautious about it; really think about what you're saying before you just spew off what you FEEL right now. Feelings can change... are you still going to love him two months from now? What about him makes you love him? How would you explain it in other words? Are you really ready? Are you going to be heartbroken if he doesn't feel ready to say it yet?
2006-12-22 20:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey I stopped reading this when I read 2 months. I am sorry, but 2 months is not enough time to know that your in love with someone. I suggest you bite your tongue and sit back and wait awhile. Love is a very very powerful word.................. That is why feelings get hurt. People say those words and don't truly know what love is.
Best of luck to you.
2006-12-22 20:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by young at heart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with something like this you will say it when you feel it is right. No one can tell you the right time to tell that someone speical that you love them. My advie is no to let it get to you...this is a great thing and when it is the right time for it you will say it without even thinking about it, it feels great, and thats all you can do. you sound like a great person and that you are having a good relationship so I am sure that her will not mind...who knows he might tell you first.
2006-12-22 20:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by B-ryan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋