The thing is, Im 18 years old, and he is 33. I am not a slut or anything like that because I've never dated before. He is married to a woman in the UK and he has 2 kids with her. He is close to my dad, who he told that he has 6 other kids with different women that the wife doesnt know about. He is rich so he travels a lot. Where I live, there are lots of rumours about his many girlfriends and I even have friends who he wants. My problem is, I think maybe he likes me more than that. I mean, he seems shy around me and comes off as a pretty nice guy. Its messed up though that
I am now in the UK going to college and he has not even asked my parents for my number or my address, its like he doesnt care or something. Am I stupid. Im really not a bad person, and I wont date him since I know about his wife and promiscuity, but why do I keep thinking about him?My friend says that she would never date him since he has a different girl every day.help?
2006-12-22 12:39:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my god!!!! If you date this guy I will do my best to hunt you down and kick your a**. Why?? Don't be an idiot. A player knows how to play, and that is just what he has done to you. He tricked you into thinking your different or special from the rest. If you were, he would be there and no other women, nothing.
It's not the age difference, or the drug dealing, not even the other women. He just isn't caring about you. I sure hope you see that.
2006-12-22 12:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your in college for what? Education has not done much for your common sense. Your Dad needs to run that piece of garbage off and report his butt to the law. Are you so down on yourself that you would even consider dating a man his age and with all the women, young girls and children he already has. What you got between your ears? Poop? You think he likes you more? Are you that big of a idiot? he likes nothing but himself, his riches from the illegal drugs that he screws up kids and adults lives with, sticking his d**k in every female of any age that will let him. He likes you better about as much as he likes all the rest of the women and girls. He is a user and piece of worthless s***.
If you do not have any better sense than this, I do not feel sorry for you. you say your in the UK and he has not even asked for your parents for your number or address, like he does not care about you or something.Be glad he has not, you might be the Only one of the many life's he has and continues to trash, to be lucky enough to stay the h**l away from that human trash bin. The way you talk, I doubt that you will listen, your bent and determined to be one of his pieces of a** . If you were my daughter i would put you some place that he could never find you and have him put so far under the jail that he would never see daylight.
2006-12-22 13:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing beneficial about this person. Be glad he doesn't have your numbers. Think about him in fantasy but keep him there. He will not love you. He loves none of the women he is with. You say the problem is you think he likes you. That is not a problem. I am in a monogamous relationship and guys ask me out all the time. Obviously, they like me, but that does not make it a problem. I only have eyes for my steady partner.
If you are in college, take a look at all the eligible men on campus who are single and nice. Every one of them would be a better choice than a married man who cheats on everyone.
2006-12-22 12:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by Asian Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And this too shall past. I am not going to trivialize your feelings but this is the best thing that could have happened to you. Thank the lord that you were able to make it out of that situation and not dead or in jail. The "girlfriends" are usually the ones get sent to jail. Right now your feelings are probably hurt because you love him more than he loved you. It is ok. You will morn about the fantasy life you planned for life together. But that was just a moment in your life that is over and done with. You need to be thanking god and not mourning some guy who could have gotten you caught up.
2006-12-22 12:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by upfromnutin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question.... sorry to say it, but yes, you are stupid.
You ask why you keep thinking about him???? The answer is simple, very simple: "His Money" --- If he would be a loser with those many kids, you wouldn't be interested.
Girl, you are too young to be wasting your time on even thinking about a man who is almost twice your age, with so many kids and girlfriends... What's worse, a drug dealer.
Let me tell you what the common story is with guys like this. Let's say you end up with him and have kids... He's not going to ever leave his wife. He will cheat on you just as he does to her and many others. He will rub on your face the fact that you knew he was like that, but most than likely, in a few years he'll end up in jail, and your kids with no father.
2006-12-22 12:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by Destiny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably just thinking about him because, in a way, he rejected you. That really is the secret for any guy to get any girl he wants, just ignore them, and pretty soon, the girl will go crazy wondering why he wouldn't want her, and do anything it takes to change his mind! You should find a nice boy to take your mind off of him; who knows how many diseases that man has? And, since he is cheating on his wife, what makes you any different? You deserve a lot better.
2006-12-22 12:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by quizicalgal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run!!! Do not even think of being involved with this person. This sounds like it could only end one way and that is you getting hurt. Stay on the right track----stay in college, get an education, and meet a nice man your age, maybe at school. Good Luck and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-22 12:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by sarabear318 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you date him? he's already married. why don't you go date a guy that is your own age? besides, he's probably just nice to everyone. anyways, he's a drug dealer. isn't that like illegal or something? btw, you said yourself that he dates a lot of girls, why would you like someone like that. besides, you talk as if he's definitely gonna go out with you if you ask him. also, he's your dad's friend. i don't know about you but, i just think it's weird to date someone that is your dad's friend. hope it helps. but it's your choice. your life. your decisions. also, what you say doesn't make any sense. you just said that he likes you more than everyone else, but then you said that he doesn't ask your parents for your phone number and address because he doesn't care.
2006-12-22 12:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't even bother with it. You could be thinking about it a lot because it would be something different to try. all the excitement of everything that is going on with him. He is not for you. If he cant be faithful to his wife and children then he wont with you either. to much at risk. you can find someone better than that. just be patient
2006-12-22 12:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by Tyetta P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg, get over the loser already.
there are many guys out there much more worth your time. the first three sentences of your question were red flags to me. okay.. he's cheating on his wife, what makes you think he'll be faithful to you? he's an old geezer, he's been around the block a few times and his old worn out dingy will probably give you a disease.
don't waste your time even thinking about this jerk. he'll end up in prison in a few years, just wait.
2006-12-22 12:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋