We have just grown apart. Don't want to hurt feeling. Wanted to do this for somtime but, something always seemed to come up.
Please help
2006-12-22 12:32:31 · 16 answers · asked by Hankster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, she probably knows, suspects, or maybe even feels the same way.
You should arrange a time when there are no distractions (a nice dinner, perhaps) and tell her that you "want to talk about us". Explain how you feel. Ask her how she feels. Listen a lot.
Either you can solve your problems or you can't. Either way do it with respect and try to remain friends. This does not have to create more bad feelings, but it will if you don't talk it out.
Good luck.
2006-12-22 12:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a time when you both can talk in person, sit down with her, and explain what you feel and that you want to break up. Chances are, she WILL probably take it pretty hard, she will have hurt feelings, and she will cry, so you have to be prepared for that. She will probably also have a lot of questions, so be sure that you're ready to back up your reasons. It's better not to argue, just explain. Then when you're all done, tell her that she can still call and talk every once in a while, give her a hug, and go on your separate ways.
If you have to see her often afterwards (if you go to school together, for example), just keep your distance and try to act like yourself. She'll probably need some time to get over it, and may be angry or hurt, but she'll get over it eventually.
2006-12-22 20:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them just what you wrote. The longer you wait the more the you will grow to hate your partner. In a five year relationship I am sure you have become friends and shared some moments that you don't ruined by animosity. Remember the sooner you get it over with the better for both of you. Good Luck
2006-12-22 20:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by onebadmedic01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to be honest, say that you have really enjoyed the time you have shared and that from it you grew a lot. But tell them that your heart is no longer in it and you need time to figure out what you want or to explore life on your own.
2006-12-22 20:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by wandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in something big.. you should have ended it earlier cause now its going to hurt them even more.
Try whatever you can. Just say that you think that you have grown apart and stuff.
Good luck.
2006-12-22 20:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest to start with. Tell the person, then pack up and leave. If your not happy, it is not good for the relationship anyway.
2006-12-22 20:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get on the bus, Gus
No need to discuss much
2006-12-22 21:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by La-z Ike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the other partner how u feel,sit down and talk and come to an agreement,no one gets hurt:)
2006-12-22 20:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by dominic_martinez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them that you don't feel the chemsitry anymore. you still luv 'em and would love to be friends but wanna see other ppl
2006-12-22 20:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by m&m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok just say u need some space. but u still want to be friends .
2006-12-22 20:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by jackiegomez45 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋