I was sleeping with him because I thought we were in love. He made love to me (not just sex), he was so affectionate, kissed me for so long, touched my face when he kissed me. Got my emotions flowing and I thought he felt the same. Then I found out he just wants a casual fling!!! I feel soooooooo hurt and betrayed! How do I deal with this? And please don't say I shouldn't have slept with him before knowing how he felt, I know I shouldn't have, but I can't change that now. Thanks!!!
2006-12-22 12:31:48 · 18 answers · asked by bellyyo62 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't dwell on the fact that he was just after sex. Your lovemaking was HOT, right? He knew how to treat a girl in bed, RIGHT? Then forget about the so-called betrayal. Just remember the fun you had with him, remember how good he made your body feel, how sexy you are, and go on. I'll never say you shouldn't have slept with him, because the attraction was real, even if the emotions weren't. I had a fling that was like that, but I don't regret it. It was 11 years ago, and he was my first lover, and I still get flushed in the face when I think about how he could lay me down and make me feel like a goddess. Remember that part for the rest of your life, and forget the rest. Carrying around all that negativity will just make you a bitter woman.
2006-12-22 12:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he was just after sex and you wanted something more then it's a bad thing that you weren't more clear about what you wanted, although guy's will lie to get sex sometimes. If you want more out of a relationship then you need to find one that will give you what you want and not settle for what you have now if your unhappy with it. Chalk this up to experience and move on with your life and keep in mind for the future the lessons you learned this time. If there were any positive aspects to the experience dwell on those while you look for the love of you life.
GoodLuck
2006-12-22 12:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bill O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That hurts for sure and you are right that you can't change the past. Don't see him anymore... if that's all he's after let him get that from someone else. At least you won't get used and reused. Try to look at it in the big picture, everything for a reason. Next time you will know not to fall for the sweet talker type. Make sure it's real. You can only change the future, not the past... and let this guy go. He sounds shallow and you deserve better.
2006-12-22 12:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
99% of men have sex on their mind most of the day. Take it as a lesson learn and don't put out until you know he is committed to just you. How do you deal with it ? Dump him and find someone else. Do not sleep with him again. If he really cares for you. He'll come back. Then you can set the term of the relationship.
2006-12-22 12:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by Hankster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chalk it up to a lesson learned...it probably won't be the last time something like that happens...we women tend to get our emotions involved in situations prematurely, and especially when our p*ssy is involved...
I'm sorry it happened and hope your feelings heal soon...try to look back on it as a pleasureable experience...if he didn't lie to you, and you simply didn't query him re: his feelings or direction of the relationship, then he did nothing wrong...
Be glad you got the chance to enjoy intimacy with someone you connected well with...even if for a short while...
2006-12-22 12:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from this experience and move on. Next time, don't let a guy into your pants until you know he sees you as more than just a fling. Really get to know him as a person and make him wait for sex, if he truly cares for you, he will wait until you are ready. Take care : )
2006-12-22 12:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is let your partner know what you want.
Don't settle for a casual thing if that is not what you want. DON'T continue to sleep with him! If you keep sleeping with him in a casual thing "hoping" it will turn into a relationship then you will continue to get hurt.
See other people and be up front with that person about what you want before you sleep with someone. That way you know what you're getting into before its too late.
2006-12-22 12:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn, that's a bummer, I'm a little bit in that situation. All I can say is get over it. Sorry to be so blunt, but it's in the past & all you can do is learn from it & not let it happen the same way next time. I know I won't.
2006-12-22 12:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mishee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull yourself together,dust yourself of and try again,i don't believe in mistakes just stepping stones and wrong decisions so know you learn from your bad choice and become a better person and don't hate him he Willl regret losing someone as special as you and he will get his believe me so be strong and keep on,you wil find love.
2006-12-22 12:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful for the experience and remember the lesson move onto a real man
2006-12-22 12:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋