The couple has said they don't want gifts, just money to save for their honeymoon. They are friends of my daughter. What is a good amount?
2006-12-22 12:28:08 · 27 answers · asked by schweetums 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've always been told that the starting point in determining a proper amount for a gift is to guesstimate the cost, per plate, needed to have you as a guest at the reception ... you go up from there. Generally speaking, the cost of a reception is determined by the number of guests attending, or per plate. These days, an average reception can go for anywhere from 30 to 75 (and much higher) dollars per person or per 'plate'. So, saying it's $75.00 per plate to throw the reception, you and your guest's minimum gift is $150 ... and so on!
However, with that being said, you may give any amount that you feel is appropriate for the occasion ... nothing is set in stone!
2006-12-22 12:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well I have heard that your gift (be it material or monetary) should at least equal the price of a meal and a bottle of wine (one person gift) or two meals and a bottle of wine (2 person gift). I would suggest a nice crisp $100 bill in a card. I think this is an acceptable amount for 2 people to give - it is alot of money! This basically means that you pay them back for inviting you with a gift that will be useful to them as a married couple. Everyone wins.
2006-12-22 15:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Personally, I think it's rude of them to ask for money. I think 50 dollars is a good amount to spend on a gift, especially to a couple that requested money.
Give them a gift certificate to a store where they can buy something for their honeymoon.
2006-12-22 15:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Giving money as a gift for a wedding is very common upon Europeans...so the rule of thumb is this, estimate the cost of the meal per person & then add a little extra. Most commonly the cost per plate is usualy anywhere between $95-$125 per person, therefore your gift should be for example $100/person x 2=$200.00 + $75.00= $275.00.
Although keep in mind if it's a cash bar then don't give as much. The above is when everything is included. But if they are family like a niece/nephew, cousin, etc than you usally give a little more.
Just so you know I'm Italian & that's the way we always do it.
2006-12-23 04:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by can't wait! 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Rule of thumb says that you give what yo can afford. I usually think in my head how much each plate at the reception will cost and multiply that by how many people i RSVP then add about 20 bux. For every wedding i have ever gone to i just put 100 bux in the card.
2006-12-22 16:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by powder_blue_tang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is totally rude that they are insisting on money gifts like that.
Give however much you want to give, based on your finances and your affection for the couple. There is no "correct" amount.
(The "cover the cost of your reception meal" thing is an etiquette MYTH popularized by ingrates.)
2006-12-22 17:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there should be a set amount. I say give what you can afford to give. If it's only 20 bucks then that's what you give. Don't go in debt for someone who is only a friend of your daughter!
2006-12-22 12:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Slam64 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
However much you feel you want to give.
Personally depending on how close they were, I'd give them no less than $50. A brother or brother in law or close relative I might give more (like $100).
2006-12-23 11:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
$50-100
2006-12-22 16:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by =] 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually give about $100-150. That's sufficient to cover the cost of my meal at the reception and a bit extra. It really depends on your respective budgets though.
2006-12-22 13:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Alarya 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋