My boyfriend loves me, we're really good together, and we have great chemistry. Every once in a while, we have off days though where we don't really have anything to talk about...is that normal, by the way? It always worries me.
Anyway, he has a really pretty female friend that has a huge crush on him, but has since "accepted" our relationship. But she calls him for advice and to hang out, and sometimes it's like he looks at me differently after he's had a phone conversation with her. Like this is a major thing that brings on the off day. He always tells me when she calls and everything, so he's not hiding anything...it's just wierd.
PLUS, she loves to go clubbing and so does he, and she keeeeps on begging him to go because they've gone in the past. And I hate dancing, #1, and #2, she'll ask him without even mentioning me. I'm worried that they'll go and have this great time dancing on each other and he'll come back and not be as satisfied.
Am I being really petty here?
2006-12-22 12:23:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This person id just an attention seeking idiot. You dont go around dancing with other peoples boyfriends. Its sick. Go tell your boyfriend how you feel. What kind of person is he if he lets her do that?
2006-12-22 12:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by silva_coin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not comfortable with the boundaries, you're jealous of her and afraid that she'll steal your boyfriend.
So, what do you do?
I suggest sitting your boyfriend down and having a nice heart-to-heart. Ask him straightforward what his feelings for her are and if he ever would consider being with her instead of you. Have an open, frank discussion about it, and really LISTEN to what he has to say. If he is totally committed to YOU, then you don't have anything to worry about! If he's wishy-washy, or you're still not completely comfortable, then you may have to try to come up with some sort of compromise that you both can agree to... maybe he'll still take phone calls from her, but will let her know that he's not going out dancing without you. OR another idea would be the three of you all going out somewhere together so that you can get to know her better and she can see how you two interact and that you are really committed to each other. If he thinks he'd be happier with her, then it's up to you to let him go. Whatever way it works out, it's better to know than to be suspicious and untrusting. Good luck!
2006-12-22 12:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if you love him and he loves you I don't think you have much to worry about. If you are that worried about it go with him when he goes out. Bring a friend along with you so that you aren't bored or whatever while your out. After all I don't think that he is hiding anything because if a man was hiding something they would not tell you about it or invite you to go along with them. You are probably looking to much into it. I have done the same thing. When you hound guys about what where when why who then that's when problems start. men don't like being hounded just like women don't. I know that it is really hard to just let it go but use what you can to see what really goes on. Go with him even if you don't want to. Like I said take one of your friends. Maybe even a male friend maybe they could hook up. You never know. good luck
2006-12-22 12:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tyetta P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is normal to have those off days where you don't have much to talk about. i know how you must be feeling right now with this other girl trying to move in on you. i would keep being yourself because obviously he likes you because he is honest in telling you when she calls, and what she says. by you sitting back and being yourself she comes off as being pushy you know what i mean? i would be nice to her (keep enemies closer), and i would never say anything negative about her to him, i would go clubbing with him,because you say he loves to go dancing, well go with him, without her though. just because you go to a club doesn't necessarily mean you have to dance. you could have a drink and talk and watch other people dance. that's what alot of people do anyway. guaranteed if you and your boyfriend go out to the club miss thang will be pretty damn jealous. i think it would be funny as hell.
2006-12-22 12:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by kris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know that your man isn't going anywhere...be confident in your relationship. Your man doesn't hide anything from you, so you know he cares. You might be reading too much into it! If it makes you that uncomfortable tell him, and try to come to a solution!
2006-12-22 12:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by OPTIMUS DIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard time u do someting quick
u go to the party and just look at the way she dance when next u go dance even better than her that will even draw the audience attenntion
2006-12-22 12:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by funky_babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is what you should do, considering shes rude and only invites him, tell him to stop talking to her since she is interfering with your relationship. And if he says he will not stop talking to her then cut him loose obviously she means more to him than you do.
2006-12-22 12:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried embracing her as a friend - Keep you friend close keep your enemies closer
2006-12-22 12:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by NaomiLSullivan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they go clubing without u then hes probley cheating on u. just dump himu dont need him
2006-12-22 12:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by jackiegomez45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating on u time to dump some one
2006-12-22 12:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋