i loved my x girlfriend that I dated for 6 months, and I guess i still do. She just dumped me because she says that I am too perfect, whatever that means. I loved our relationship, and she always told me how great I was and how lucky she was. She cheated on me 3 times and did nothing for our relationship but I still love her and sometimes want to fix things. We have been apart for over a week now and she is already running around town with a new guy. Why do I still miss her, I cant stop thinking about her, and she could care less about how I feel. Why do i still have feeling for this trashy, liar? What do I do and why cant i get her off my mind??? I never want a relationship again...
2006-12-22 12:19:06 · 22 answers · asked by B-ryan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do not close your door for another relationship. most of the time bad things happened to good people like us. we had thesame problem. but now, though it is still hurt icope up with it. i kept myself busy, go with friends, i tried to be happy. lots of diversion i made just to eased the pain. another relationship is not the answer. i ask God for a help . i just keep myself busy. i redeem my self-respect. at first , i cannot live without him ...but now i can. with the help of family and friends and also through yahoo answers. time can only tell..... move on ...i know it is really hard at first... now, i'm still in the process of healing this broken heart of mine. life is good. do not jump into conclusion that you do not want another realtionship, but i understand.. that is the normal defense mechanism. show to her that you are no longer affected. that you had grown after break up. that you are happy now. you'll see what the result is.... now... i'm happy.
cheer up. merry christmas.
2006-12-22 12:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by alone927 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you didnt think she was "trashy" when you were dating her dont be childish now and call her names. Secondly you dated for 6 months and claim she cheated 3 times what the hell is wrong with you to keep accepting her back? She saying you were to perfect is her way of saying she doesnt want to be with you just attempting not to hurt your feelings. Is this your first "real" girlfriends is that why you cant get over her? Everything you said about her was negative do you have self esteem problems that kept you in the relationship? Ofcourse she's going to be running around town with another man why should she sit around and whine about the past? There is no fixing things move on and stop being so whiney and the next time a girl cheats on you kick her to the curb and dont look back. And one more thing NO ONE and I mean NO ONE cheats if a relationship is so great and they are so lucky..
2006-12-22 20:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how old are you? Regardless of your age, you will get over it eventually. It's only been a week! You may love her for the rest of your life, which is okay. I still love all my exes (some were scum, but hey...), never regretted a one-nighter, and I'm 30, married for 7 years, with one kid and another on l the way. Don't try to forget about her because it's pointless. Remember you had a good time while it lasted, that she doesn't deserve you anyway (she didn't take the affair as seriously as you did, obviously), and that you have a lot of time left in your life to fall in love again and again and again. The pain is short-lived compared to the joy you can get out of a relationship. You can't go thru life a brooding, depressed lonely boy. Have fun, and when it's over, cry for a while, then go forward. Every one is different- some love affairs suck, others rock your world. But they almost all break your heart. Just remember to enjoy it while it lasts, and don't let it drag you down. A relationship (and its end) should enrich your life and not ruin it.
2006-12-22 20:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three times cheating in six months AND has a new boyfriend in 7 days time? I would forget about her very quickly... A lot of times people have a tendency to pursue most the people who treat them the worst. I would not fall into that trap, and try to realize that she probably isn't as unique and wonderful as you might think, you just fell hard for her and it probably made everything about her seem great. The world is filled with good looking girls, you didn't just happen to stumble upon the only one, and there will be more for you. Your next girlfriend around will make you realize it probably wasnt that great.
P.S. Don't be surprised if when she finds you moving on with your life and getting interested in other things and other girls she tries to edge her way back in. That is when you get to turn the tables on her and kick her to the curb. Anything else and you are making a mistake, not to mention she wont respect you.
2006-12-22 20:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off how old are you? That can bean alot. If your still a kid then you will evently get over her, but if your older like in your 20's or so then it will take time. If she really loved you she wouldn't have done what she had done. It seems to me that she used you for whatever her reasons were and you need someone to care about you for you no matter if people think your too perfect, that might be the way you are.
2006-12-22 20:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by frogprincess614012001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are selling yourself way short here.
The girl obviously has issues -- she cheats on you, runs around town with other guys, and tells you that you're wonderful in order to inflate your ego. What does this accomplish? It makes you feel like SHE puts YOU up on a pedestal, when obviously she doesn't. Face it, she was just buttering you up so that you didn't get mad at her over the things that she did. She set you up as an angel so that she could get away with a bit of devilish work and have an excuse.
Find someone who will be honest with you, who will appreciate you, and who isn't so manipulative. LEARN from this experience -- figuring out what went wrong will help you move on and be more knowledgable in the future.
2006-12-22 20:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to feel that way, it seems that you were more involved in the relationship than she was. You just need to take some time to yourself, try and feel better, and then go out there and find someone who deserves some one as good as you. There's really no way to stop feeling bad, it'll just take time. Don't give up on relationships just because of one horrible person, you'll find new people, and when you do, you'll be glad you got out of the relationship you were having with her.
2006-12-22 20:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever say you never want a relationship again. Just give it time. It's only been a week; you'll get over her after a while. If you don't, then you fight her and try to get her back because you guys were meant to be together. Don't be too perfect. Hav annoying habits or something.
2006-12-22 20:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by Life Is Great 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know they say tigers don't cry bu you need to express all that anger and emotions inside of you get it out of your system and then look how she treats guys and see how you are not missing anything, start fresh with someone who will love you and is ready for a commitment not a girl who will rip your heart apart and does not care for you deserve better and you will find someone,stop reminiscing over the past and look to the future and you will know you over her when if she walks past your heart starts running let go so that you may find true happiness.
2006-12-22 20:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for another relationship. Why should you let a girl you call a trashy liar spoil your happiness. If she trys to talk to you again just tell her that you no longer have any time for her. Some people don't even care about themself so how can you expect them to care about you.
2006-12-22 20:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋